[Ayanna]

How would someone know how much money you have, if you're in --say-- the grocery store. Is there such a thing as a poor or middle-class look? Unless the lady is checking you over for namebrand clothing, I don't know how she would know you're not on her 'level'--especially if you are considerably good-looking.

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[Ayanna]

If you are truly a changed person, and you are happy with the way you are today, then leave the past in the past. Everyone has done things he or she is not proud of. Most of the time those experiences help one become a better person. If the subject is broached, this is what you can tell your current beau. If he's understanding, he'll realize he's got himself a mature woman who has learned from her mistakes.

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[Ayanna]

Nancy, I wish I had the 'correct' answer for this question. I have been told the same thing too many times to count. What I'm finding is that the men saying it are either not ready to be in a relationship, or just don't want to be in a relationship with me. It's really just that simple. This seems to be a politically correct thing for men to say, so that women don't feel that something is 'wrong' with them. This is the best answer I can give on that behalf. I can say that when the 'right' man comes along, he won't have to say anything to that effect. He'll just act accordingly.

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[Ayanna]

I don't know if 'acceptable' is the right word to use here. I can say, that it is more common to see Black men out with White women. In this country, there appears to be a hierarchy of power beginning with White men being the most powerful, then White women, followed by Black women and men respectively. It is 'subconsciously unacceptable' in this society for a White man to have a Black woman on his arm. Somehow it reduces his 'value'. I don't agree with this twisted mentality. But that is the way it seems. Black men, on the other hand--are on bottom of the totem pole in terms of respect that they are given in this country. It seems that they have more to prove than Black women. Furthermore, this society has idolized 'white beauty'. Thus, some Black men feel that they will earn more respect by choosing a White woman as a mate. There are of course millions of people who date and marry interracially, based solely on the inner qualities of their mates. But this is the stigma that has been attached to interracial dating for many many years.

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[Ayanna]

For some it is easier to have what some people call a 'self-defeatist' attitude, instead of applying the effort it takes to make necessary changes. The reason why these people end up in the same ruts as their families is because this ideal ends up becoming a self-fulfilled prophecy. It has nothing to do with smarts or intelligence, or family genes. It all has to do with one's will to do certain things. This applies to many different situations in life.

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[Ayanna]

It's sad, but some black women still feel the need to compete amongst themselves for a lot of things: men, better jobs, attention, whatever. When people in general feel insecure about themselves, it's easier to find others to help spread the misery---or they just spread it themselves in the form of 'joaning', as you call it. There is nothing wrong with being quiet and/or nerdy. What matters is that you stay true to yourself and continue to show respect for yourself and others. When these people see that it isn't easy to rattle you, their comments will subside because it will require too much energy to persist.

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[Ayanna]

There are several ways to answer this question. First and foremost, there are a few ways of weaving hair: 1) by 'pasting', or actually glueing the wefts of hair to the head. 2) by having the hair sewn into 'tracks' or 3)by braiding the weaving hair in with the client's own hair. Though hair weaving has become popular in many cultures, Black women are most known for wearing their hair in weaved styles. One of the reasons why is because there is still a standard of beauty in this society that says longer hair is more attractive. African-American hair has a much different texture than Caucasian hair. Our hair grows out in tight coils, as opposed to straight. Straight styles that black women crave require them to straighten their hair with chemicals. As a result of these chemical treatments, our hair becomes damaged and breaks off. Therefore, it doesn't appear to 'grow' as fast as Caucasian hair. So in the interim, we use weaves as an alternative. Not all women who wear weaves are brain-washed into believing that long hair is better. Some simply like the versatility that weaving accomplishes.

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