[Anonymous23720]

Wouldn’t the two of you have discussed your feelings about children, religion and a host of other important issues sometime before the discussion of marriage? There are men and women who have no interest in having children. If this is important to you, I’d think you’d bring this up with your partner before the relationship got too serious. Before the relationship progresses beyond casual dating, bring the subject up.

I believe many of us thought we wanted what we believed was expected of us. For women, it’s the desire to marry and have children. There’s a lot of pressure to conform, and I believe that unconsciously, many of us do it without questioning if we’d like something else. That’s been my experience. The irony is that I’ve always been told that I buck the status quo. Well, apparently not in all cases. I have children, but honestly I can say in hindsight that if I had given more thought about my own desires and needs, I would not have had children. I love my kids, but knowing myself better now, I know that raising children was never something I viewed as fulfilling. Try saying this publicly and be prepared for the backlash.

Some of us should not be parents. We’re not bad people, we’re simply people who could better affect others’ lives without creating them.

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Name : Anonymous23720, Gender : F, Age : 30's, City : Farmington, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

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