[Anonymous23693]

Assuming that you have been tested for STD’s and are disease free, I strongly feel that you should tell before committing to a serious relationship, but you don’t have to tell everyone you date about your past. My wife has a background that sounds very similar to yours – she was the party girl all through high school and college. She says that she slept with so many men that I have trouble comprehending it sometimes (well more than the 20 guys that you mention), and had two abortions and one miscarriage in that time. However, she had enough sense not to tell me about it until we started to get into a serious relationship. Let me first say that she is definitely not that person any longer – at the time she was dealing with a history of child sexual abuse by her uncle. It has taken me a lot of research to realize that her self-destructive behavior during her teens and early 20s was a result of this abuse. Let me just say that this is not who she is now, and it was not who she was when we started dating in our late 20s. All of that said – if she had told me about her history when we first started dating and I didn’t know who she was, I probably would have assumed she was still like that and broken up with her. However, she waited until we both knew each other better, and we just starting to consider making a serious commitment to our relationship. By that time, I knew her well enough to know that she wasn’t the party girl anymore and I could actually count on her being faithful. Also, if she hadn’t told me, I would have probably ended up finding out anyway from someone else (old friends have a way of blurting out things like this when you least expect it).

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Name : Anonymous23693, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 30s, City : Near the beach!, State : SC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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