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- Why do some darker-skinned black females treat me cruelly or assume I think I am better than they are because I am light-skinned?
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Name : Renee30152, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 18, City : N/A, State : NJ Country : United States,Let me just say that this happens within the Hispanic community. I am Puerto Rican but am very light. Because I was brought up in English-speaking schools, I have lost most of my Spanish. I too get discriminated against because I am not darker. I don't feel superior because I am lighter and closer to white America. But I feel that my darker relatives feel they are inferior - that somehow they are still stuck in the barrios.User Detail :
Name : P. Hall, Gender : F, Race : Puerto Rican, Age : 24, City : Zephyrhills, State : FL Country : United States,I have the same problem. Read The Color Complex. It will answer all your questions and more. I have learned a lot from it.User Detail :
Name : Nadira20243, Gender : F, City : Fresno, State : CA Country : United States,I am embarrassed by this question and the support it got. It is basically petty. This shows how we, black people, can't unite. From my experience, black women are jealous of pretty women, period. I am sure it happens in other races, too, but this dark/light bull---- is amazing. I am a light sistah with long hair, and I have never looked down on dark-skinned people. Can we forget our color differences and work hard to make our race a better one? Can we set up shops and businesses instead of being bothered about how much closer we can look to the white race? Maybe if we do that, we will like ourselves the way we are, and everyone else will like us, too. Maybe then we really wouldn't want to be close to whites. Please think about the future black generation instead of dividing yourselves as light and dark.User Detail :
Name : lola, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, City : Oakland, State : CA Country : United States,Read The Color Complex by Kathy Russell. It contains good explanations for why we black folks are so hung up on each other's skin color.User Detail :
Name : ED25492, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 43, City : Kansas City, State : MO Country : United States,Light-skinned African-American women are not hated because of their fairer complexion or straight hair. It's their attitude. I have many friends on both sides of the color scheme, though many, including myself, are in-between (caramel color). I have never felt resented by people on either side.In most cases, the girls I know who are light-skinned tend to have bad attitudes and come off as women who believe they are superior to the darker African-American woman. Believe me, black is beautiful, and I don't ever recall meeting a dark-skinned woman who didn't believe that. Light-skinned women just seem to exude this aura of superiority, and that's why dark-skinned women resent them. It's not because the darker women have low self-esteem or are jealous, it's simply the attitudes of the lighter women.
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Name : Caramel delight, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 18, City : Oakland, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,In my experience as a child, the darker you are, the more teasing you received from your peers. My older sister, who is light, would always call me names like blackie, etc. For a long time I had a complex about this and believed lighter was prettier. I am proud to say I have overcome this complex and I know now that beauty comes in all shades. Look at Lauryn Hill, who in my opinion is one of the most beautiful women the music industry has ever seen. I have noticed some of my lighter-skinned friends expect to receive more attention in public and sometimes get an attitude when they don't. I have also noticed that some of them do not consider any dark-skinned woman beautiful. Is this you? If so, maybe that is why you receive this negative feedback.User Detail :
Name : Zarilillian24077, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, City : Atlanta, State : GA Country : United States,I have to disagree with Jon from detroit. I am a dark skinned woman and I have never discrimanted againt my light skinned sistas. We are all Sistas. But I can say that I have been looked at wrong and so on by my light skinned Sista. Like some of them do think they are better than the dark ones. The heavier Sista talk about the skinny Sistas and the well off Sistas talk about the ones that are struggling. Like the one Sista said we need to come together and stop the War among ourselves. I love all my Sista'sUser Detail :
Name : Ms-Lou20367, Gender : F, Race : X, City : Southfield, State : MI Country : United States,In response to Sista's comments my response is that in the 36 soon to be 37 years of my life I have never heard such crap for it only reinforces this rather tired notion of black people as victims and as a black person we need to let go of our so-called victimhood and realize that we are in the year 2000 for we need to look forward instead of living in the past.User Detail :
Name : Felipe L. Simmons, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Cafeteria Worker, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,My heart goes out to this individual for in my opinion it does not matter if the person is light or dark complexioned beacause it is about time that black people get over this nonsense beacause it is counterproductive and keeps us from doing the things that we need to do to be successful in this society.User Detail :
Name : Felipe L. Simmons, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Cafeteria Worker, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,why are both light skinned and darkskinned girls so jealous of me i am light brown skin girl is that still considerd as being a little close to white ? but anyway this is what i have to say anytime i go some where either a lightskin or a dark skin girl stares at me and talk about me and i would sometimes say why would a really lightskinned girl or rather a lightskin girl close to my color would get jealous of me for some reason i don't know for some reason i am a lighter brown skin girl i am not a darker brown but i never heard any body being racist to brown skin person only the darker skin but sometimes when i go out boys still considerd me as being a lighter version of being lightskin just because i am a lighter brown even white guys so i really don't know but whoever please get back in contact with me my e-mail address is leondra@hillUser Detail :
Name : leondra hill, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 17, City : smithfield, State : VA Country : United States, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Upper class,Does every African American issue have to be explained by slavery? I don't think the slave masters were smart enough to 'institutionalize' a divide and conquer mentality in a culture that would persist for over a hundred years. These were greedy, selfish, evil men not wise men capable of doing massive-scale institutionalizing. I think the fact that you grant the slave masters that much intellect implies that you think of them as superior. I know lots of intelligent African Americans who rise above their heritage, just like me, and refuse to be victims of that heritage. Otherwise they would still be slaves to that heritage. Why would you give your power today to those slave masters of yesterday? I think that the light black/dark black issue just shows that the racism in America is more complex than just ethnicity vs. ethinicity, but within ethnicities there is deep levels of racism.User Detail :
Name : Martha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 30, City : Los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Light-skinned women are more attractive, more socially equal to whites and much more intelligent than darker blacks. That is why they are preferred. They aren't like blacks and shouldn't try to be.Director's Note: While Y? generally does not post inflammatory submissions that do not appear to promote dialogue, it feels it is appropriate to do so from time to time so that users obtain a more accurate picture of the range of submissions Y? receives.
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Name : Michael, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Southern Baptist, Age : 22, City : West Monroe, State : LA Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,This comment is for everyone in general, but especially for Micheal of West Monroe: Obviously, you are a very ignorant man. I knew before the end of the message that you were a white male. Anyone who thinks a color determines intellectual capability or amount of physical appeal is likely insecure and needs something to make them feel better. Yes, you probably do think light-skinned African Americans look better, but don't you think that has to do with the fact that you think white people look better? It is a shame that you even considered your comment worth typing. I happen to know a large number of African Americans of all shades who are beautiful. My question to you is, Why are white males so intimidated by intelligent, dark and beautiful African Americans?User Detail :
Name : Kesha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 18, City : Nashville, State : TN Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that some darker-skinned black females treat light skinned black women cruelly because of jealousy. Society has tried to teach us that whiter is better. Obviously some black women are feeling the hate! I am a darker skinned black women and love the different shades of black out there!User Detail :
Name : Darlene, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 36, City : fersno, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Sales Manager, Education level : 4 Years of College,
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