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No, I just don’t think its a very good way for two men to have sex.
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Name : Nathan20143, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 40, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Tech, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Different guys have different preferences. Like most of the gay guys I know tho, I do both depending on the guy I am with. Sex is different on top and bottom, but there are things that can make someone attractive either way. Some guys think being on top is symbolic of being dominant, so the more masculine or aggressive guy may be on top and the more submissive guy on bottom. But there are also plenty of aggressive bottoms, and plenty of people who trade positions, or ‘flip flop.’
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Name : Vincent, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 29, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Dot Com, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Recieving is a hit and miss activity with me. But for a one word answer, why do I do it? ‘PROSTATE’. Straight or gay this is your pleasure button, and there is only one way to get to it. There are plenty of other psychological reasons that gay men do that, some of which have nothing to do with sex at all. But if you want to know why straight men sometimes go to town with a toy, it is the male g-spot.
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Name : Jon Anderson, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 30, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Patient Care Coordinator, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,This is not only a question for gay men. If you have studied human sexuality at all you would know that anal sex is also enjoyed by some females. And regarding your question ‘why?’… well, if you have ever had your prostate massaged, which I am sure you haven’t if you are inquiring about this, you would know ‘why’. The prostate is basically the ‘g’ spot for men. It creates an incredible sensation but men, especially straight men, have found this to be a very taboo subject.
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Name : Keith, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 45, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I used to hate anal sex–giving it, getting it. Since I met my partner, I have discovered that I like to receive it. I think the reason I never liked it before was a control issue–I literally and figuratively couldn’t ‘open up’ to a man fully. Now, with my partner, it is an out of body experience for me. Physically, I believe the prostate in the man is the equivalent to a women’s clitoris. Stimulation of it puts me on another planet. But the intensity has to be more emotional and spiritual–having a true and deep connection to the person you love most in the world. (it’s not about anal sex, but I had the same experience with oral sex–hated to do it, but now I love it. Needless to say, you can imagine that I wasn’t a very popular gay man).
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Name : Drew, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 38, City : Indianapolis, State : IN, Country : United States, Occupation : Marketing Manager, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Though there are some gay men out there that neither give nor receive anal sex (penis to penis contact only is called ‘Frot’), the vast majority of gay men enjoy giving, receiving, or both. Personally, I only give. It’s tight, it’s warm and feels great around my erection. My other half enjoys receiving especially when my penis hits his prostate just right. Our sex life is hot, exciting, passionate, and always loving. I guess to answer the question the old adage is ‘if it feels good, do it.’
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Name : Jason31236, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States,And NO! If you like it, no, it doesn’t mean your gay or bisexual. It simply just means you like it. Period.
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Name : Tim24575, City : Oakland County, State : MI, Country : United States,I personally do not have that much anal sex. I think most people would be surprised by the fact that a good number of gay men don’t have anal sex at all. But when I have done it in the passed, preferred to be on the giving end, ‘top.’ Being on the receiving end can and usually does hurt for me. Giving feels great, physically. But for a lot of guys who ‘bottom,’ guys on the receiving end, it feels amazing to them. I wish I was in that number. I guess it is the stimulation of the prostate that drives them crazy.
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Name : Zac, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Age : 29, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Gay people do what ever will feel good, some just like to give some just like to get and some like both. The reason why gay people do it is the same reason straight people do it, it feels good. And do I need to remind you that the anus is one of the bodies erogenous zones? There are many nerve endings there and that is why is feels good.
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Name : Derek, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 28, City : Toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : classified, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have been on the receiving end and giving end of anal sex. For me, I do it because it feels good, is pleasurable, and it fills my need for physical and emotional intimacy. For all of the same reasons, good and bad, that heterosexuals have penetrative sex, gay men do too. Of course, gay men can’t procreate together, but would it be fair to assume that every time straight people have sex their intent is to procreate? There is also a slowly growing movement in the gay community of men who do not have anal sex at all. They call this kind of sex Frotting and it basically involves everything sexual except anal penetration or anal stimulation of any kind.
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Name : Scott Burton, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Neo-Pagan, Age : 32, City : Columbus, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My self, I have been both ‘Pitcher AND Catcher’. I find that, personally, I like recieving a little more than giving. Why? Well, without being too graphic, I find that when my prostate is massaged, or rubbed during anal sex, my orgasm is magnified about 100%.
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Name : Robert, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : Columbus, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Bar Tender, Office Worker, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,As a gay man I can say that every gay man that I have ever met has both given and received oral. I personally like to give more than receive, but that is soley a preference. Just as a guy’s willingness to perform oral on a girl or a girl’s willingness to perform oral on a guy.
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Name : Anthony D, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : I'm not, Age : 25, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Analyst, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First, let me clear up the misunderstanding that gay men are the only ones who participate in anal sex. Many heterosexual males prefer/enjoy anal intercourse with their girlfriends. There are women who enjoy it, and there are also straight guys who enjoy letting their girlfrinds penetrate them anally with a ‘strap-on,’ (slang term for this is ‘pegging’). There are many, many reasons why someone would enjoy anal sex in both the ‘active’ (male) or ‘passive’ (female) roles. Understand that deriving pleasure from sex is more mental than physical. For example, if you like to have sex outdoors, it’s not because sex feels better outside, it’s because your mind likes sex better outside. So a lot of the attraction in anal sex are the mental aspects such as being submissive/dominating to your partner, giving or receiving pleasure in unconvential ways, or just doing something that you’ve been taught is ‘naughty.’ That being said, there is a physical pleasure to anal sex. Obviously, if you are the active partner in anal sex, it is clear how this would be pleasurable. Many people who have had both anal and vaginal sex say the feeling if very similar. On the other end, so to speak, is the pleasure from being receptive. This may be more of an acquired taste, but if you have ever had your partner finger your anus at the same time your genitals are being stimulated, you may realize that this is a very good feeling indeed. So just to re-cap, there are both mental and physical pleasure that are realized in having anal sex, whether in the active or passive role. Both men and women, straight and gay, like to have anal sex in either the active or passive role.
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Name : Hensley, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40, City : Fort Myers, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Librarian, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes, because it feels good — Try it! It’s a sensation and you don’t have to be gay to enjoy it. It’s like a massage… Most everyone likes one whether they’re gay, straight, white, black, tall, short, smart, dumb, etc… It’s been my opinion that straight people sometimes miss out on some great sexual adventures — Especially straight men who are to macho or insecure to experiment outside their comfort zone. Have your girlfriend or wife fondle your rear. I’m confident you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
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Name : Tim24574, City : Oakland County, State : MI, Country : United States,Both, because it’s fun, frankly. If men didn’t have a prostate, it might not be, but we do and it is. It’s not for everybody, of course, and topping(giving) is just as fun as bottoming(recieving), at least for me. I’d say over 2/3 of gay men are strictly bottoms, though. I’m sure there’s lots of psychological reasons why, but I don’t really want to think about that too much.
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Name : Nick20012, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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