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Maybe the fact that she only wants ‘IT’ once every 2-3 weeks might have something to do with it, but I seem to satisfy her. I don’t like to brag, but, it comes more naturally for some men to be good at what they do. Rarely do we even have ‘warm-up’, if u know what I mean… I, obviously, am not a woman, but, I believe, if you ‘Warm Yourself Up’ BEFORE HE gets into bed, you may actuall y have an orgasm OR FIVE !!! GOOD LUCK !!!!!
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Name : Tom, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Ft. Myers, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Self Employed, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,Location of the clitoris, that is. If it’s right up front and poking out it shouldn’t be an issue. (This is my, necessarily, limited experience). Most however are um, swaddled (take a look at yours in a hand hled mirror) you’ll see what I mean. I’ve found that after a good long bit of oral sex concentrated on the clitoris and then some deep penetration in which the womans legs often need to be bent pretty far back at the waist (unless your man is well above average in length) and even some fairly quick alternation between the two can eventually pull it off. This is very physically demanding of the man, I can assure, and don’t expect much action afterward. Still, when I’ve been able to help a woman achieve orgasm during penetration it’s been a rewarding feeling.
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Name : Vail24485, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : mutt, Religion : Atheist, Age : 40, City : Philly, State : PA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I have had a few with the man being on top, but I find I can have one every time if I’m the person on top. I find that you can get the right angle to achive a orgasm.
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Name : Nesha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Spokane, State : WA, Country : United States,Back in the 60s or 70s Sherri Hite (not sure of the spelling) said that something like 60-70% of women do not reach orgasm. Sad. She suggested, and I do also, that you tell your partner what works. And you will have to find out yourself to be able to tell him / her by way of masturbation.
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Name : Lucinda A., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 63, City : Tucson, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Software Test Engineer III, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I am a man, and therefore don’t know anything about female orgasms from the direct experience of having one. I have, however have found through my sexual experiences with women that there are many different ways women have orgasms. I slept with a girl a few times who told me that she had never had an orgasm, by herself or with someone else (she had been with women before as well as men). I don’t know what I did that was so different, but she did orgasm while having intercourse with me. On the other end of the spectrum, my current girlfriend can easily have 5-10 orgasms a minute during intercourse. I have also had experiences with women in between these two extremes. My advice would simply be to spend a lot of time on foreplay, especially since you can orgasm from masturbation. Make sure you are absolutely 100% comfortable with your partner, and communication is also very important. Men aren’t born with female pleasure instruction manuals programmed into our heads, and many have no idea what the hell is going on down there. If he is doing something you don’t like, tell him. If he’s doing something you do like, tell him. If he’s doing something you like, but he could be doing it a little faster and to the left, tell him. The ability to communicate is very important. Also, don’t get into a structured mindset. You can give your guy instructions, but keep things spontaneous and don’t micromanage. I hope this rambling was helpful in some way.
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Name : Jackson, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 19, City : Tucson, State : AZ, Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower class,I think most do not. However, my lover and I found what we think is her ‘g-spot.’ When I insert my finger, I curl it tightly until I feel the wall of her vagina. There I can feel a ‘patch’ of sorts – touching that area brings her great pleasure. She is now able to position herself during intercourse so that my penis massages that area. She is able to achieve orgasm fairly easily that way.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 47, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There are 2 kinds of orgasms that women can have. One is clitoral dealing with the stimulation of the hood and clit. The other orgasm is vaginal, meaning that the orgasm was received by penetration or the g-spot. The majority of women have clitoral orgasms and therefore are harder to achieve. I recommend using a vibrator during sex or sliding your partners hand to your clit for him to stimulate.
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Name : Sunshine, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 24, City : Denton, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Customer Service/ Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The vast majority of women do not achieve orgasm during intercourse. The problem is women view this as not normal, but withint the range of what is normal, you are fine. Some women are able to achieve and others arent. As long as you enjoy yourself and can achieve orgasm in other ways, that is what matters.
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Name : Bill Wardell, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 64, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Doctor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Penetration alone is not enough for most women. There almost always has to be clitoral stimulation. Unfortunately, THAT is not taught in high school sex classes. Even if we women figure that out, we are usually too shy to tell the man he’s not pleasuring us or take it into our own hands. We’re too scared to hurt his feelings. Unfortunately, too many women resort to faking, so you have these guys who think they must be hot stuff who are in fact just terrible. So, give that clit some attention. If that still doesn’t work, though, maybe you are just too tense. So relax, he’s not looking at your tummy or thighs.
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Name : Meg, City : Gainesville, State : FL, Country : United States,Only way I have ever been able to achieve this was to use a vibrator while hubby did all the leg work (so to speak) but I have always been hard to climax… with me I think it’s fear – we got through the inhibitions (love the hubby) and that has helped a lot… but usually it comes down to two things… fear/inhibitions and basic biology (some women need lots of stimulation while others don’t). Do NOT give up trying (it’s awesome when you can)… if your partner is understanding, adventurous and cooperative, you will get there, but don’t feel bad that it doesn’t happen naturally… you are not alone.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 34, City : Melbourne, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : freelance writer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I have not had an orgasm during regular sex. Basically it seems that it is just another example of attention on the women and their needs coming second to the mans.
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Name : JL21126, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Undecided, Age : 25, City : South Milwaukee, State : WI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,As a man, I cannot provide an answer, but I can provide this question: What can we do to help? You need to tell us what gets you off.
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Name : Ralph, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 34, City : Bergen County, State : NJ, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I orgasm when I’m on top…aside from that position, I’ve only orgasmed during intercourse maybe once or twice. I’ve faked it alot, though.
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Name : Rachel, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 41, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,You have to find a way to do it so you never lose contact with your clitoris. Conventional, ‘in-n-out’ intercourse leaves it untouched for a large percentage of the time. Try it with a man on top, and he has to spend most of the time outside your vagina, but instead with the underside of his penis in constant contact with your clitoris, which is ‘higher up’. Small, almost vibrating movements and steady pressure will bring you what you’re looking for. Incidentally, it also places constant pressure on that extra sensitive part under the tip of the penis, so everybody’s happy!
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Name : Miles G., Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : Santa Maria, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher (of course),Orgasm comes from combination or stimulations. Part mental, part foreplay, part stimulation to clitoris, part is also from the partners job in bringing one excitment. Not only feel free to touch yourself at such time also feel free to use a vibrator (I like the pocket rockets) on your clit at the same time. Also changes in possition etc. can help
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Name : Georgia21672, City : Knoxville, State : TN, Country : United States,
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