Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO
Question
Often when I stop my car for white people crossing the street, they break into a silly little “trot” that lasts a few seconds. I’ve seen this primarily in whites over 25. What gives? Are they trying to show “courtesy” to me?
C., Central California
Replies
In my experience, African-Americans do the exact opposite. They walk even slower — especially if they notice the driver is white. It’s almost as if they feel it’s their opportunity to get back at the white man for “keeping ’em down.” It’s “You sit there while I take my sweet time walking across the road!”
Robert, 36, white male, Newnan, Ga.
My method behind the madness is because drivers around here have a tendency to “jump” forward on red lights. Pedestrians have been “bumped” by cars doing just that. We actually had a guy in a wheelchair crossing the road get hit by a car at an intersection recently.
Maighen, 24, white female, Dallas
I’m trying to get out of your way, so we can both go ahead with our business. So, you’re welcome — even if you don’t appreciate it.
Craig, 42, white male, Chicago
I trot, and I’m neither white nor over 25. I do it to show the driver I’m not taking his courtesy for granted. My boyfriend is white and 27, and he crosses at a snail’s pace under the same circumstances, because he hates cars and considers it his little act of rebellion.
Nik, 24, black female, San Francisco
White kids under 25 are worried about image. It’s a shame that thinking of other people gets made fun of.
Andy, 30, Columbus, Ohio
Expert says
This is all about attitude, not race, says Cynthia Lett, executive director of the International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals.
“It has to do with how someone feels everyone else should treat them. If a person feels the world should stop for them, they’ll go slow, and if they feel they might be inconveniencing others, they will walk faster.”
While nobody should cross the street when a car is nearing, those who trot — Lett prefers “scoot” — do so as if to say “Excuse me, I’ll be out of the way in a second,” while saunterers are basically saying, “I’m here, pay attention, I’ll get out of your way when I feel like it.”
Whether people think white or black people do one or the other is likely moot, because it’s typically defiant younger people of any race who are the slowgoers, she added.
And is it really more polite to get out of the way a millisecond faster if you shouldn’t be crossing in the first place? Consider this entry from The Meaning of Liff (Crown Publishing), a humorous dictionary of made-up words:
“STURRY (n., vb.) A token run. Pedestrians who have chosen to cross a road immediately in front of an approaching vehicle generally give a little wave and break into a sturry. This gives the impression of hurrying without having any practical effect on their speed whatsoever.”