Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO
Question
What is the youngest age to give alcohol to your children? Is it OK if they get drunk?
Baby Boomer, 45, male, Los Angeles
Replies
I can’t think of a single reason why letting your kids drink is a good idea.
Dick, 42, Chicago
I offer my daughter a sip of whatever adult beverage she cares to try. She hates most. At some point we’ll let her drink until she feels “tipsy” and then “drunk,” carefully monitoring it. I want her to understand how much alcohol it takes to get to both points, so she doesn’t wind up at some party at 16 or 17 dead from alcohol poisoning.
Tim, 37, Chesterfield, Mich.
I find it hard to believe a baby boomer is asking if it’s OK to contribute to the delinquency of a minor.
Katie, 38, Los Angeles
The first time I got really buzzed was at a family reunion; I was about 13. I went away to college much better able to handle my alcohol, know my limits, etc. . . . I think the European model is much better than the American one in this regard.
Dave, 35, New Orleans
I wouldn’t give alcohol to your children until you’re at least 46, Baby Boomer.
Rich, 23, Michigan
Between the ages of 5 and 12, my grandmother used to give us kids a hot toddy made from moonshine when we were sick. Talk about toasted! But when I woke up the next morning, I had nary a sniffle.
Monika, 26, Houston
People who say never let them before 21 are giving rebellious teens a reason to drink.
Jami, 19, Pullman, Wash.
Let them get drunk? That’s a form of child abuse.
Christine, 27, Minneapolis
Expert says
Isn’t this a moot point? These 1-year-olds are already poop-faced to begin with, wobbling all over the place, barely able to stammer out “ba-ba” for “bottle.” It’s epidemic.
But, for kicks, we talked to David Rosenbloom, director of the Youth Alcohol Prevention Center at Boston University’s School of Public Health.
Some studies suggest – but not strongly – that “in some families, where there’s a lot of family time and drinking wine with dinner is seen as a special occasion . . . the kids may be less likely to engage in early problematic drinking,” he said.
But, we’re talking about context and culture: having a “taste” of wine, in a setting where the practice may have been done for generations.
“Parents who provide beer or spirits under what they believe are controlled circumstances are kidding themselves that they are teaching responsible drinking,” he said. “I’ve seen multiple cases in which parents think they can control a situation by inviting the kids in and taking the car keys away, and then having horror stories.”
“This business about ‘training’ people to drink is horse –. They are teaching them it’s perfectly fine to drink without respect to the law or their ability to absorb it.”