Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO
Question
Why do some parents have their infant’s ears pierced? Why risk the child pulling her ears or getting an infection?
T., 20, female, Macomb, Ill.
Replies
I think it is just plain selfish to get an infant’s ears pierced. That baby does not come out of the womb saying, “Mummy, I do think that a dazzling pair of earrings would go quite wonderfully with my onesie, don’t you agree?”
Alaina R., 28, Cincinnati
When I was 6 months old, my mom pierced my ears because I had no hair and she was tired of people saying “Oh, he is so cute” even though I was dressed in pink. When taken care of properly, the piercing will not get infected.
S.S., female, Branchville, N.J.
My mother had my ears pierced when I was a baby and did the same thing with my sister. I never thought about it like that, but I think most people do it when their child is a baby to get it over with.
Cee, 20, female, Philadelphia
I asked an acquaintance this after she mentioned she pierced her baby’s ears. (I have tons of piercings and tattoos and I highly disagree with doing unnecessary, non-consensual procedures like this.) She said she felt she should, because her ears were pierced as a baby. Also, the mother could take care of cleaning them.
Stephanie, Newark, N.J.
Expert says
Before we get to why it’s done, let’s quote from the Association of Professional Piercers’ official policy on piercing minors, from www.safepiercing.org (plus since it’s official-sounding and stuff, it allows us to write about naughty bits in an official-sounding way):
“For any piercing of a minor, a parent or legal guardian must be present to sign a consent form. Proof positive, state-issued photo identification is required from the legal guardian, and a bona fide form of identification from the minor. . . . Under no circumstances is it acceptable or appropriate for a piercer to perform piercing on the nipples or genitals of an individual under 18 years of age.”
Piercings for infant ears have been around in Hindu and Mesoamerican culture for a long time, as a religious rite of passage or to distinguish gender early on.
Other cultures – say your typical Caucasian North American – jumped on the bandwagon in more recent decades, said Christine Whittington, co-author of Body Marks: Tattooing, Piercing and Scarification.
“It’s become more popular, like any fad,” said Whittington, who has a number of piercings. “Earrings have been around for millennia. It’s more natural to see the body as a canvas.”
Whittington herself is cautious about infant piercings.
“I wouldn’t do it; I’d want my child to have a choice. . . . You should get a piercing when you’re old enough to request it without being asked, and are old enough to observe the hygiene that’s needed with it.”
But, different pokes for different folks.
“Some parents . . . pierce the ears when young, so the infant won’t remember the pain,” Whittington said.