Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO Question Is it appropriate to hold the door or go out of my way to help an individual in a wheelchair? Joe M., Sioux Falls, S.D. Replies My girlfriend, a wheelchair user, says to wait to be asked if you’re a stranger. Spontaneous pushing of a wheelchair is invasive and sometimes very frightening. Andy B., 27, St. …
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By PHILLIP MILANO Question Are men who’ve had a gender change attracted to men or women? Audrey, British Columbia Replies My transgendered friend is “pre-op male-to-female.” Although she hasn’t had her operation, she presents herself as a woman. She was a heterosexual male attracted to females. Because she still prefers females, she’ll be a lesbian when she makes the change. …
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By PHILLIP MILANO Question I’ve traveled extensively and am wondering why even the best European hotels do not provide washcloths for guests. Marie, 49, Manassas, Va. Replies I guess me not knowing what a washcloth is says it all! Sofia, 28, Odense, Denmark We don’t use washcloths as extensively as Americans, but we do wash ourselves very well with soap …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: Does society kowtow to the rich?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why does it seem that people are treated better in almost every aspect if they have plenty of money, while middle-class and lower-class people suffer? Jaymar, 38, middle class, Lexington, S.C. Replies Would you be quicker to do a big favor for your destitute brother-in-law or for Bill Gates? Morpheus, New York, N.Y. I don’t see …
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By PHILLIP MILANO Question What do others think about dating older women? I am intimidated about asking a particular woman out because I’m 23 and she’s 38. Any suggestions? Dustin, Houston Replies It’s a great idea. We’re always hearing about how older men score young babes, so prove it works the other way, too. Jeff, 45, Victoria, British Columbia, Canada …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: Does race really affect noise level?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why do black people act louder in public more than any other race? Sparky, 48, Asian female, Middleburg Replies I’m not loud in public. My family and friends aren’t. The funny thing is, when white people are being loud I hardly notice it, or I respond by saying that those “people” are being loud, rather than …
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