[laura-a]

I think the problem here is one of assumption, not social interaction. The question to ask yourself is – ‘do I want to spend some time in this person’s company?’ If not, then obviously decline the offer. But if you do, you should accept – because otherwise what you are saying is that men and women only ever socialise when they envisage a romantic attachment: which would be somewhat depressing. It is not difficult to make clear what your expectations are – an airy ‘yeah, we could have a coffee some time or something’ strikes the right tone; insisting on paying for yourself establishes that you are not being ‘taken out’ as such. Talking about people you *do* have your eye on usually gets through to the most obtuse suitor – and if all else fails, what is wrong with (when the moment is appropriate) a quick, honest statement that your interest in them is purely platonic? Anyone who then loses interest would hardly be a great friend in any case.

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