[holly]

i was once caught in the chicago airport for over 7 hours, and spent a noticable amount of time in the food court, people-watching. what i gathered there was, regardless of age or race or lack of/wealth in money, about 85%of men chewed with their mouths open. i also remember, as a child, being the one who got in trouble if i told my brother to chew with his mouth closed. hmm. to me, it seems to be a difference in expectations of manners for men and women. boys will be boys, and all that sheer nonsense. i know there are some non-western cultures that do things as eat loudly, burp, and so on to show appreciation for the food they are eating. but generally in western society this seems to be one of those rules of manners and consideration for others that just doesn´t seem to be of concern for many people.

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[holly]

from where i stand, the problem is that you identified the race as ‘black.’ the race is what country they are from, not their color. this presents problems if you don’t know what country they are from, of course, but if ‘the black guy’ is considered offensive there is a preferred way of saying this. for example, in the states, african-american is the preferred phrasology. unless of course the person was not born in the u.s., in which case we are back to saying where they are from. the reason we do this is because ‘the black guy’ is offended, probably due to others using this phraseology as a put-down or having racist implications. basically it’s that he’s not a color he is a person, from a country, and skin color tells you so little about who he is. look at it this way: if a friend told you she was hurt when you called her a certain name or described her as, say, the girl with wide hips, would you continue to use the same terms? it’s a matter of respect and deference for other’s feelings. though p.c. talk can get to be too much, i agree, it is rooted in the desire to not offend or hurt those we are talking about, which in this way is a good and noble thing.

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