[William24300]

The first is a hard question. The fact of the matter is that a significant majority of us have never raped anyone (unless you ask Andrea Dworkin, but I digress), so perhaps we don’t know what the urge is like at all. On the other hand, I think we all know what it’s like to want to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with us; perhaps the difference is an awareness that you *ahem* can’t always get what you want. As for the sex object bit, it goes something like this: to think that we view women exclusively as sex objects is a over-simplified. Men don’t always look at women as sex objects. Usually, we look at them as (vastly confusing) human beings. In another twist, women have been known to look at men as sex objects too. We all look at someone as a sex object at some point (convince me you’ve never spent a moment pondering somebody’s cute butt). In the main, I think most of us would like to be lusted after at some point by someone; the problem is that a lot of us seem only to want to be viewed sexually by the people who we ourselves view sexually. The fact that there are just some people we don’t want to want us, combined with societal conditioning that men are supposed to be the sexual pursuers lends itself to the notion that men are depraved sex machines who are unable to view you as anthing other than a piece of meat. But nothing is as simple as that. In short, it’s complicated. Here’s an idea: maybe you’re paying attention to the wrong men. It sounds like the forceful, self-centered ones who seem to (or do) have the potential to be rapists and think that you need to hear about it every time they get turned on are making the most noise, so you assume that they are in fact representative of what the rest of us are like. Not so.

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Name : William24300, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Librarian, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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