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I am going to suggest a different course of action. Do discuss the diary with your husband. It obviously bothers you that you ‘violated his trust’. By admitting to him that you read a part of it and asking for forgiveness, you will be more likely to put that behind you without carrying a burden with you. On the other hand, if you can shamelessly lie to your spouse, keep it to yourself. I would also point out that what is in the diary may or may not be true. He would not be the only guy to have consciously or unconsciously embellished a trist. Also, by keeping it after getting married he must have known there was a chance you would come upon it. (not to self: trash that old diary.) As for the sexual acts, you should not do anything you are not comfortable with. Do not assume that your husband will not be sexually satisfied if you can’t play the role as described in the diary. Do talk to him about sex. Gosh, doesn’t the minister/priest/rabbi/etc still give this instruction to all couples when they wed? Make a habit of this. Say, on your aniversary. Men’s desire for sex does attenuate as we age. He might be completely happy. Or not. However, as others have already suggested, ask yourself why you wouldn’t at least try to do whatever it would take to keep him happy in your bed. Would you expect any less from him, either in or out of bed? To not try to satisfy your mate is very cruel. And that cruelty will haunt your relationship. Forever. You both sound like good people so I hope you work it out. Good luck.

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Name : W, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : >40, City : Central, State : NC, Country : United States, 

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