[Victoria Sefranek]

I am a white woman, 53, and I have many friends of all races and creeds. I am afraid,with your very first statement, I would question whether you want this woman as a friend only because ‘you’ve never had a black friend’. In the matter of making friends, do you like her, do you have interests in common? If you met a white woman you enjoyed, would you take into consideration that she has too much going on at home and in her life to be a friend now? I get the feeling you are basically a pretty good person who has been brought up in somewhat isolated circumstances and only know of black persons from TV, what others may have said, and now from work. Just as you would respond to a white woman at work, respond to this woman. Her color does not necessarily define who she is. Because of how she may have been treated in the past, due to her color, her response to you may be cautious…or not. But she is a woman, obviously of intelligence, working for a living, who interests you because of many reasons – not because she happens to be black. So approach her as you would anyone you’d be interested in becoming friends with, emphasizing common interests and, if the interest and respect is mutual, a friendship will grow. If it is not meant to be, it won’t be you approaching her because she is black, or her not willing to experience the friendship because you happen to be white. Just be yourself and let her be herself.

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Name : Victoria Sefranek, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 53, City : Bethlehem, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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