[Thom24776]

Gaydar is a variant on the basic human phenomenon that allows people to focus subconsciously on qualities that really matter to them. Straight people don’t really need to identify gay people, so they never develop the skill that lets them do so. Ironically, this is true even for raging homophobes, who you think would develop gaydar just to let them hate more effectively. Gay people NEED to find each other, so they learn how to do so. Some people learn quickly and easily, others with much more difficulty. I suspect that the degree of difficulty depends mainly on one’s comfort with oneself. The more you appreciate your own gayness, the easier you can identify other gay people. Gay behaviors are determined culturally; thus, gaydar fails when one enters a different culture. For example, to an American, almost all Italian men seem to act gay – purely a cultural reading of cultural behavior. Thus sometimes even inside an apparently homogeneous culture like that in the United States, gaydar fails because people fail to give or pick up on the very subtle signals involved. And, yes, gaydar works for lesbians as well as gay men. Don’t be upset if you’re having problems developing your gaydar. It will come at its own pace.

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Name : Thom24776, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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