[Sherolyn]

You must be sure to discuss important issues, such as family and children before this relationship gets too serious. Some, not all, African cultures do support that macho attitude among the men. You have to inquire about his cultural beliefs, rather than assuming that his values are the same as yours, just because he’s a good guy. I have a friend now who had triplets with her African husband. Later, after he cheated on her and she decided to leave him, he tried to kidnap the children on several occasions and take them back to Africa. Of course this kind of thing happens all the time in many cultures. But, where this man is from, children are considered the property of the husband. Therefore, it is very important to discuss these issues and observe the way his family operates. Sometimes, people who seem great under good circumstances are anything but when things go bad. Just something to think about, but I hope your man really is as good as you say. You know him better than your friends, but just know that they do have your best interest at heart. Good luck!

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[Sherolyn]

I do not know the answer to your question, but it is one that I have found myself asking frequently. I do know that the 10% black thing originated during times of slavery and/or racism (as if it doesn’t still exist) in order to classify blacks for purposes of discrimination and segregation. The real truth is that, short of blood testing, there really is no way to tell who is what, except through appearance and what our families tell us. This is why so many people with African ancestry identify themselves as black or African-american, because African features tend to dominate appearance. It would be strange for me, as a brown skinned person, to classify myself as white. The truth is that if everyone were to have blood tests, a lot more people would be realizing for the first time that they are part Native American or ‘black’ (we won’t get into the difference between labels such as black, African-american, etc.).

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