[Samm29437]

To Winston: Since you are not a black woman, how can you speak for them and their experiences? As a young girl, I watched black men - from my mother's friends and relatives to my own dad - walk out on their families, 'step out' on their wives and lie right to the faces of the people they claimed to have loved. As a young adult woman, I have consoled girlfriends as well as myself, who have had everything from mental to physical abuse, been cheated on, lied to, etc. There is probably a pretty solid historical reason for this behavior, but it doesn't make it right. I believe this is definitely a learned behavior. Black women have absorbed the anger from the elder women around them, and black men have absorbed the emotional distancing behavior from the elder men that they modeled. It is time to get over it and act like adults. Do whatever needs to be done, get counseling, address the anger that you have with adults in your life that caused you pain. Let's break this negative cycle and deal with it, people.

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Name : Samm29437, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 35, City : Boston, State : MA Country : United States, Occupation : Artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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