[S.M.]

I’m an East Indian guy who has lived in Canada, England and India, and find 2 distinctive features in the way Indian men (I can only speak for this group of Asians) perceive American women when they come to the America, and to the West in general. In India, the only exposure that men have to Western women is through the media. And, unfortunately, that means being fed on the stereotype of the the sexy, slutty little blonde bimbette or the flaming, redhead enchantress. In short, American women are seen to represent easy-going, casual sexuality. However, when they come to America, they are confronted with the conservative side of American women – often through unfortunate racism. But they are also exposed to women being independent in a sort of male-denying way. What I mean is that, in India, many upper middle class women are quite independent but still seek men for support and (familial) stability. But in the States, women are seen as individuals who don’t need men! So, in my experience, Indian men see American women as two things; sexy but often unattainable, and independent (and thus also unattainable!).

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Name : S.M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : East Indian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student/Musician, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[S.M.]

Are you saying that all colored men are opportunistic, misogynistic jerks who are incapable of the finer emotions of love, trust, affection and partnership? Well, I am an ‘East Indian’ guy who has been in a very serious relationship with a brunette of white/Caucasian ancestry for six years. And the only reason we have been together this long is not because I think she is a ‘trophy’ of some sort (it makes me want to puke just thinking that I’m using that word). Rather, she is the only person I have ever been with and my best friend, essentially because we relate to each other in a way we never have with anyone else. I play guitar for a heavy metal band and want to make my career in this field. None of the Indian women I knew were willing to accept me for this interest. But my significant other was. On the other hand, none of the white guys she had dated were willing to support her ambitions to become an actress. And I’m willing to give my life for this passion of hers. So why does it seem so hard for you to believe that a white girl and a non-white guy can make a relationship work purely because they are in love and relate to each other’s passions?

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Name : S.M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : East Indian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student/Musician, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[S.M.]

Interesting question. I’m from India, but have many beliefs, habits etc. that would make people easily mistake me for a White guy. I listen to heavy metal, play guitar, have long hair, go to grad school, am a pacifist (!) etc. I even managed to give a skinhead a piece of my mind in a chatroom once, because he thought I was White and agreed to talk to me! However, on the basis of skin color, I don’t see how I could ever be White in anyone’s eyes. In fact, I’ve humorously thought that from now on I should list my ethnicity as Black/Caucasian. Peace.

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Name : S.M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : East Indian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student/Musician, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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