[Roberta G.]

Honey, are you sure it's because you're BLACK that you're being treated this way? It might instead be because you're FEMALE. Over the years, I've worked with, and waited on, people of literally every possible description. And I've noticed--repeatedly--that female employees are often treated with less respect than male employees, especially if they are in low-paid positions. (If you don't believe this, just ask any female salesclerk how often she gets snapped at, and then ask the male salesclerks in the same store!) I'm NOT saying you should tolerate mistreatment based on gender, only that that might be the reason you're experiencing it. Having said that, I must reiterate what Markus said. I'm afraid the most likely explanation of all, given your age, and the fact that this is your FIRST job, is that you are perceiving problems where 1) none really exist 2) they are of your own making, and you don't realize it. I know from personal experience that it's very easy to feel persecuted, especially if your self-esteem is low. (If some of your co-workers are going out to lunch, and don't invite you to come, it might not occur to you that they had very private things to discuss or that they simply didn't think you would be interested, etc.) Learning how to handle people is ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL in ANY walk of life People who can't get along with others aren't going to get anywhere, no matter how smart or talented they might be. I'd like to recommend a book to you: HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE, by Dale Carnegie, I believe. If you're certain that you have a legitimate complaint, you'll have to decide how to handle it. The suggestions given you by other posters were excellent. Whatever you choose, Honey, in the long run, you're going to be okay, and God bless you :)

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[Roberta G.]

What I'd like to know is, why does the rest of the world keep running to us for protection and money, if they're not interested in receiving either? Of course we can't solve all the world's problems, but apparently other nations can't even solve their own. Are you saying we should ALLOW other nations to murder and oppress their own citizens, as well as those of other countries? To stand by and do nothing--what kind of people do that? We spend lives and money and resources trying to help other nations. Yes, sometimes with an end to gain, such as oil in Kuwait. But the criticism leveled at America from all over the world is out of all proportion, considering how little so many other nations do to help themselves. It seems they're willing to take our help, as long as they don't have to actually be grateful for it.

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[Roberta G.]

I'm white, and I wouldn't dream of putting a spoon I'd licked back in a pot--and neither would anyone I know. I prefer to get a clean spoon, taste from that, and then it goes to the dishwasher. As for public toilet seats, yes, I sit on those. I do like to use the paper protective covers you see sometimes, and/or clean the seat with anti-bacterial towelettes before using it. However, it would take more flexibility than I possess to suspend myself above the seat and aim! And I've seen soiled seats so often it seems to me that people who DON'T sit on the seat don't think they have an obligation to clean away whatever they might leave on the seat. Kisses in the morning--well, I'm not a big fan of morning breath, and neither is the hubby--so we generally just kiss each other's cheeks in the morning ;)

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