[Rebecca Harris]

Your parents are worried that this guy will distract you from a very important time of your own life. You’re at an age when you’re easily influenced and could get into trouble before you’re even adult enough to understand what the real consequences are. He’s probably not still in high school, so he won’t be understanding of the idea that you have homework. You’ll want to do the things that he wants because they’re more adult, so you’ll ignore things that are really important to this time of your life. The next 4 years really will make a huge difference to the whole rest of your life. Absolute truth. No matter how hard and ugly these years are, they are very important. Your parents know this because they remember their own stupid mistakes. This guy is going to want lots of attention, he’ll want sex, and probably drinking, maybe drugs. All that’s very exciting when you’re pretending to be an adult. But the point is, you’re not an adult, these are the years when you learn how to be one. All those exciting adult things can have really sad consequences, because you don’t have the skills yet to make adult choices. It’s like the age difference between 3 & 6. There is a lot to learn and this guy will push you into things you’re not ready for. And you’ll go along with what he wants because you’re excited about not being a child anymore. Except that you’re not making your own choices, you’re making his. And he doesn’t have as much to lose because he’s already older. Your parents don’t just dislike this guy, they’re scared, really frightened, that you’re going to make a bad choice that they won’t be able to fix and make better, just because you want this guy to think you’re an adult already. You’re going to be an adult for 40 or 50 years. The only time you get to practice making good choices is the next 4 years. YOU are the most important thing in your life right now, not him. But you’ve already heard all this, and don’t believe it applies to you. So here’s the other option. It’s called harm reduction. You’re going to make some bad choices. Just decide right now to minimize the consequences. Use condoms. Don’t drink and drive, or ride with a drunk driver. Don’t use hard drugs. If you can be strong about those few things, you’ll survive. Adults have principles, self-protection and self-repect will get you through the deepest trouble.

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Name : Rebecca Harris, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 44, City : Oakland, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Marketing, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Rebecca Harris]

The white culture in America right now is more open about homosexuality than many other ethnicities. It is easier to be visible when you know that even if your family rejects you, you can still be acceptable to your culture in general. The black and Asian lesbians I have known have a much more difficult time with rejection by their cultures and their families.

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Name : Rebecca Harris, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 44, City : Oakland, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Marketing, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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