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Ask if you can offer assistance instead of forcing help onto someone, or ignoring their struggles. They are human just like the rest of us. I would imagine some disabled people would appreciate the help, while some prefer to fend for themselves, just like those of us with all our limbs and organs working. Just because two people share a common disability doesn’t mean they want the same things in life.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I doubt that very highly. One thing I have observed in a very unscientific manner – and rashly generalized – is that many overweight black women tend to carry themselves with more pride and confidence (of which I am extremely jealous), and thus are more noticed and remembered. Overweight white women tend to try to hide themselves and their bulk (yes, myself included) and, like a typical wallflower, if someone doesn’t make an impression, it’s doubtful you will recall them later.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,so that’s what ‘wet spots’ are supposed to mean? It’s supposed to tell the observer ‘hey, I work out.’ I always assumed the guy couldn’t reach, was lazy, in a hurry, or just really sweaty in general. how about that.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve always puzzled about that one myself. Why would the threat of you leaving him for a woman be greater than you leaving him for a man? His being uncomfortable with your sexuality in general is interesting, also. That’s quite a hurdle the two of you will have to work on together. Perhaps it is tied into his own insecurity as your mate/boyfriend/significant other, and your being bisexual just gives him an easy way to express it. How often have any of us wondered what we did to deserve our good mates? Even the most confident person has to have moments of self-doubt. He may also fear for your safety – a valid concern.
It could also be a lack of understanding on his part. Not many straight people (being status quo) really delve into the minutiae of sexuality. It could be something he’s never thought about – he may have just accepted the popular opinion of his upbringing. It’s probably a combination of all of the above. Sexual orientation is a controversial issue. It is difficult to separate opinion from fact, and acceptance does not come from many sources.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That would be why the French are the captains of industry and intellect, eh? I think it depends on the school, the students, the teachers, the parents and the town in which the school is located.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There are definitions of white privilege other than how expensive your car is, or how fancy your house. The elevator for instance. White woman alone in an elevator. When a white man gets in, it’s doubtful she will tense up and flee the minute the doors open. However, a black man gets in, chances are good she will. Chances are this woman is thinking that this black man is going to violate her somehow. Why? because he is black. Who is more likely to get served in a restaurant first? Who’s more likely to get assistance in a store? You will be approached by a salesperson, but a black person gets tailed by security. White privilege is the privilege of being innocent until proven guilty. It’s being able to drive through fancy areas and not get pulled over – you’ve heard of the crime of ‘driving while black?’ It means not getting shot by the NYPD 30-plus times as you leave your apartment. It means not having to be aware of where your ID is at all times. Trust me, you have not lost any scholarships, jobs, lotteries or whatever to affirmative action; your spot was just less-guaranteed to you as a white man, in order to give other people a chance. There have never been laws that said you could not use a public drinking fountain, let alone go to college or even vote. And trust me on this one, too, it’s not a piece of cake for anyone getting a job coming out of college. Affirmative action, troubled as it may be, is not giving jobs to complete morons just because they are not white and male. It is not giving free scholarships to all people of color regardless of ability. It is not bestowing all the privileges of middle class life onto people of color – otherwise, why would there still such a great racial divide? And clearly, from your self-description, affirmative action has not held you back from your own success. I’m guessing it’s contributed more than you are aware. The fact is, we all have to work hard to succeed.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Of course the education system is designed to make people good citizens; that’s a part of an education system anywhere. However, if it is true that the education system is attempting to make us better consumers, then we’d be investing a lot more money, time and talent into educating people. There would also be no debate or controversy about advertising in schools, unless this is part of the goverment’s disinformation plan (the conspiracy theorist’s favorite rebuttle). We would also be giving the government a lot more credit than it deserves. I for one, sure don’t believe the government has the collective brain power to come up with a plan as subversive as dividing the races in order to make them consume more. (I guess this would work via no sharing, everyone must buy their own?)
I think the folks in the government are working harder to keep their own interests on top, their own pockets lined, and yet still win an election. I think racism can be and is reinforced in schools – despite our best intentions, however, racism starts much, much earlier than that – from the moment a child begins to understand the nuances of communication. For example: Racism or whatever-ism starts the minute a child makes the connection between mom or dad unconsciously pulling them protectively closer when someone of a different race walks by.
I do not believe racism exists in this country for a purely consumerist purpose. I think it came from the same place much of our culture came from: It immigrated, and with a few modifications we made it our own. Every country has its racism. I’d like to know what Europeans and others think about the racism in their own back yards.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m really trying to wrap my brain around how watering the colon will cure poor eyesight. What’s the old saying? “If it sounds too good to be true, it is.”
I’d speak with a trusted medical professional about the risks as well as any benefits that may be had from that procedure. If you are too embarrassed to ask your doctor, there’s another reason not to do it.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I didn’t realize “masculine” dress was the official uniform of lesbians everywhere. I guess that explains the surprise most people have when I introduce my mate. I can’t tell you how many people have said, “I always thought you were gay!” That all lesbians dress in men’s clothing is a stereotype, and like all stereotypes, you miss a lot if you believe them. I think most of the issues have been eloquently hit – men’s clothing is cheaper and easier, ultra-feminine is uncomfortable for most women and is often blamed for why a woman is mistreated, and most lesbians, like most women in general, dress more for their own comfort or happiness, not to get a mate.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I had never noticed that B.O. from the sun exposure was race-specific. Personally, I can stink up a room after a day in the sun as well, and I’m about as white as wonderbread. Of course, being white as wonderbread, I come inside a bit sooner because I burn.
Take a good, long snort of the next white person you see who’s being active; no deodorant in the world is going to cover an afternoon of activity in the sun.
I don’t think it’s racial. I think you may just notice more becuase you are already noticing the person.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My relatives refer to themselves as Dairy Farmers. Saying “I milk cows for a living” does bring up some interesting and amusing visuals: I’m picturing a scrawny white guy in overalls and no shirt with a piece of hay sticking out of his mouth sitting on a three-legged footstool manually milking the cows. With his banjo and red bandana’d dog sitting by the door of the barn. Say dairy farmer and I visualize a large-sized farm, with up-to-date equipment, herds of cows, deadlines and customers. The whole nine yards. While both are the same thing technically, “I milk cows for a living” tends to leave a lot out of the picture.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I guess it would depend on the attitude of the teacher.Is (s)he an approachable-but-misguided person or an outright bigot who believes the garbage he/she teaches? If it’s an approachable teacher, you could provide other documentation that shows the information is incorrect. Most textbooks I’ve come across are full of inaccuracy or blatant disregard for the contributions of anyone other than white men, and most teachers I have come across do little to fill in what’s missing in these texts.
If that’s not an option, perhaps you could petition the school district to offer a class that focuses on the historical role of minority groups. While this won’t solve the problem of the teacher, at least it provides an alternative for students over white history. The one problem with this, however, is that the students who would merit the most from this class are the least likely to take it.
If the teacher is really bad, and clearly a bigot, you should speak to another trusted teacher or guidance counselor about getting into a different class, or get a group of parents together to file a complaint with the school board. This is a difficult path to take, and requires much effort and follow-up in order to have something done about the teacher. I wish you well, and hope you are successful.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Excuse me? “Women will wait for a man?” How passive do you think we are? I wouldn’t get a mail-order spouse because it’s pathetic, not because I don’t have the money or am passively waiting for a man to pick me. If I see someone I like, I try to get to know them; I don’t wait.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I hate shopping. Standard shopping procedure: Run in, grab first thing that doesn’t offend me, buy it, get away ASAP. The only time I’m dawdling and browsing is if what I’m shopping for (i.e. a dress for a formal event) is worse than shopping itself.
And for what it’s worth, I’ve got a straight male friend I take with me for the fashion advice and browsing techniques. I get more compliments on his selections than mine. so this just goes to show, not all of us fit our stereotypes.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Just kidding. As has been stated, women are encouraged to be more emotional, men are encouraged to be the stoic protector who shows no emotion. I guess this is in some perverted way supposed to demonstrate men’s strength and women’s nurturing talents? I’ve never understood it.
I’m probably one of the least emotional women I know. I hate to cry, and I don’t get overly outwardly emotional in either direction. It’s not that I don’t feel, it’s just the way I am. I have to remind myself on many occasions, “Look excited, dear.”
I long for the day when people are allowed to be themselves, and can express their feelings without having to worry about social convention.
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Name : Onewanda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : NYC, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
