[MickeyP]

Dear Honey, Regarding your concern about your first job out of college… congrats and welcome to the REAL WORLD!: ) I just wanted to tell you that even white people in white offices get ‘discriminated’ against, even if they do have schooling and a high G.P.A. Finally, at 40, I think I can give a bit of advice about this. The true test of a person is how you react to bad situations or demanding people (such as your boss.) Your parents gave you only half of the ‘success’ equation because while education and hard work help, building a good rapor w/ your co-workers and boss (i.e… asking them questions about their interests and actually taking the time out to remember them… perhaps even copying their mannerisms and attitudes !!)is much more important if you want to keep your job. People forget that colleges are also businesses and there to make money, so pushing that idea that you have to get a degree to get a good job is important to them. Truth is, strong companies are built by teams of people that care about each other. Instead of feeling discriminated against, (this feeling probably shows on your face without you knowing it)take the time to study this other new employee, to see what he does to get positive feedback. Perhaps he has good ties already to some people who work there… perhaps he is an extremely good communicator. If you are the unknown there, be it black or white, of course people are going to test you, whether you had good grades or not. You can throw them off by asking them questions about themselves… their hobbies, children, etc. It’s difficult being from different backgrounds, but I bet you can find some common ground.. even if it’s just a silly joke.. with your manager. If you aren’t good at communicating with people, then no G.P.A. or superhuman feat is going to move you up the success ladder, and at your age you still have time to take communication and speech courses and social studies to help you master the fine art of getting what you want in this crazy, complicated world!

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Name : MickeyP, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, 

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