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I don’t know if I could speak for all men on this for two reasons. One, I am gay. Two, who can generalize anything like that about society at large? But this is my guess: First, I doubt any man actually has the urge to rape – that is, I don’t think any man thinks he wants to sexually assault another person and in the process commits a crime. But maybe that’s semantics. What I think a lot of men fantasize about is the desire to overpower, and possibly to just ‘f**k the hell out of’ someone. I think it’s fairly common for men to see someone they desire and just get that deep-down-in-your-groin-wanna-have-sex-with-em feeling … straight or gay. The so-called ‘urge to rape’ is more of a manifestation of a sociological/pyschological problem: thinking that a woman or man wants to be physically/sexually assaulted beyond their control. That is, the rapist doesn’t understand that wanting to overpower someone – in this case, sexually – is not wanted/desired/etc. Or, if they think it isn’t wanted, they may think the person being raped deserved it or didn’t know they wanted it. That type of urge is rare. And as men’s fragile egos work, when we’re turned down, we don’t want them more or to ‘teach them a lesson.’ We usually just think they suck really bad. Yet, actually highly desiring to have sex with a stranger (or someone you know, for that matter) is a totally different ball of wax. I know most men feel that at least once, if not numerous times, a day. That’s just biology.
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Name : Matt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 31, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : IT support, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Oh my god. You people started out on the wrong foot. Me: absolutely magic and intensely erotic and amazing romantic. It took us 2 hours just to hold hands while we were watching a movie after dinner. I don’t think we went to bed until 6am….
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Name : Matt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 31, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : IT support, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,How about the idea that certain careers offer up the flexibility to be who you want to be if you so choose? You hear a lot about these mysteriously flamboyant hairdressers, but little about queeny corporate accountants. I’m not saying being a hairdresser makes you queeny, but that in a field such as that…you are afforded a little more freedom than people who work in corporate American.
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Name : Matt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 31, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : IT support, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
