[Mark]

I bet you are not as negative as this implies, Douglas. I hope you were trying to say that society generally operates on the assumption that people are straight because most are. I think it is more a statistical thing. It’s a waste of time for straight people to change their vernacular to include sexual orientation, especially when 90 percent of the people of the world are straight. It’s all about efficiency. It’s the ‘normal’ thing that grabbed my attention when I read your reply. My sexuality does not make me ‘abnormal.’ Last time I checked, I put my pants on the same way that you do (no, I don’t wear a skirt). I think if you met me you would not even know I am gay. I bet you would say I am ‘normal.’ If this woman is frequently asked about her boyfriend, people must think she is pretty ‘normal,’ too.

What is important to understand is that gay people did not choose to be gay. They are born gay. Any gay man or lesbian who says they ‘chose’ this ‘lifestyle’ is not truly homosexual, in my opinion. What you do ‘choose’ is to accept it and tell others. This woman has not brought anything on herself because she is a lesbian. I do feel, however, that she is wrong to assume that everyone has to understand her perspective and change their social interaction skills when they are around her. She will likely get over this with time. If she doesn’t, she will just waste a lot of energy.

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[Mark]

I think it is funny how many white Americans, especially those with liberal backgrounds, are so afraid when other racial/ethnic/cultural groups choose to identify themselves with the derogative term that was created by white America (be it many years ago) to discriminate against them. I think that it is a racial/ethnic/cultural group’s prerogative to use derogatory terms that represent them. By embracing these terms and using them in an endearing way with people of the same racial/ethnic/cultural background, these groups almost take the sting out of the reference. Acknowledging a term used by bigots and using it in a positive way takes the legitimacy out of the prejudice it is commonly used to represent. It’s almost empowering. I think some people should take a step back and recognize that America is about freedom. A big part of freedom is about respecting people’s differences – not homogenizing everyone. Groups that are discriminated against need a sense of community as much as they need to be accepted by American society as a whole. When someone from one social group judges another group by their standards, they are bound to find things that they dislike. That does not mean these things are ‘wrong.’ It just means they are different.

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