[Lauren]

I wouldn’t say your friend has the right to be completely rude to people, but then again you have to consider (and perhaps experience it) to understand fully how ridiculous guys can be toward women when hitting on them, especially if it happens often and you aren’t even up for it to begin with. Guys generally go hunting for females if they are single (or not) when they are out almost non-stop, and when you’ve had your fill you really don’t care to be nice about it. Even if she had been nice to him, he more than likely wouldn’t have taken a hint, which is probably exactly what she was trying to stop cold. I don’t know your friend, but unless she is an idiot, she probably knows well the difference between a guy who is attempting to hit on her and a guy who isn’t. It’s her choice how she deals with it either way, because she isn’t obligated to entertain others on any level if she doesn’t want to. So what if it’s cold sometimes? How cold is being viewed as if you were meat? As if you were obligated? How cold are men to women in the same game?

Appealing to a woman’s character after you get turned down is perhaps the worst mistake made by men after getting rejected, because while some might feel bad for him, most don’t. They know the guy is only sore that his mojo got denied and he didn’t get what he wants. Such is the game, and the game is never fair. I recommend, however, that she employ another tactic besides ‘talking to the hand.’ That’s just freakin’ cheesy.

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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 23, City : na, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Student; Business Operator, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Lauren]

Take for instance: A young 20 years or so white male , self-proclaimed peace lover and practicing ‘student’ of political enlightenment/social humanity and I are catching up after not seeing each other for a year. He has found out that I just broke up with my black girlfriend. Trying hard to be polite, he eventually begins asking personal questions about it out of gripping curiosity. I obliged because I was curious to see where the conversation would go. He was shocked by finding that I was ‘going’ bisexual, but also that my first experience was with a black female. He started talking about that the girl was black. He couldn’t get over the black aspect of the topic and all of his questions became more and more ignorant, offensive and uncomfortabe. I tried to educate him about it somewhat because it was important to, but we eventually came to a point where he didn’t want to discuss it anymore and I knew then that even though it wasn’t said I wouldn’t be seeing him again. My interest is this: men are generally attracted through their own sexual motivations to female bisexuality. While my friend was interested in exploiting me behind a guise of concern or simple curiosity only to hear some juicy about bisex, or to perhaps ‘cash in’ on some action if he could get it, his core sexual interest in this became impotent so to speak, as soon as the ‘black’ element involved hit home- his whole attitude toward me took a bigoted turn despite obvious interest in bisexuality if the girl had been white. Racism does effect sexual preference or what is perceived as desirable. Certainly one of the most blatant and indicative shows of a common truth. Also, color is blind to basic female objectification. The two are basically inseperable in this light but only magnify the complexity of trying related issues.

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[Lauren]

Lewd or suggestive remarks written on any surface may be offensive, but paying particular notice to ‘gay’ remarks as if they are more offensive than any other graffiti is where your problem lies. Reading, ‘call Jenny for a blow, 867-5309′ above the urinal is of the same immature and cliche’ caliber as, ‘Gary’s meet Harry’s Exit 105, Tuesdays.’ The difference lies in the person- some would be lewd and juvenile because they just are, and some would not be because they aren’t. Sexuality is not a definative marker of character or personal class, no matter the orientation of the individual. (I do not tell lies because I am strait, I do not know truth because I am gay?) Focusing on sexuality as a clue to who someone really is will always be fallible. The gay people of the world who are not partaking in suggestive graffiti are the people that should be contemplated instead, as it is out of their control and not a transferable guilt onto them by what others less responsible would do in delinquence. Of course if you would choose to scrub the graffiti from off of the walls yourself, then the environment and the mature ratio of the gay population would collectively thank you for it. There will always be persons doing unethical things like this, like graffiti, but these persons are not unethical because they are gay. Teach your son to respect others, and to have disdain for disrespect within reasons/limits necessary. Gay should have nothing to do with reservation or special treatment though, in all equal fairness, unless the persons who are gay are being unfairly judged. Relax. It’s o.k. to be straight around gay people 🙂

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