[Kim H.]

Homosexuality is no more a lifestyle than hetersoexuality. We’re not talking about picking out a pair of shoes or a car. I’m tired of people assuming we can ‘pick’ our sexual orientation, and the silliness of that assumption points to the lack of scientific information under which statements are made. If it were because of schools or some of the other influences previous responses have alluded to, we would be a whole nation of gay people!

With that said and out of the way, my thoughts are that women are far more fluid in their sexuality than men. You see this quite often in older women who have either divorced, widowed or are alone and take on a female lover for companionship. I think most people make the mistake of believing that the only criteria for picking a lover or a mate is that the person be of the opposite sex. I think there would be less loneliness and less social ills if companions were picked on the basis of personality rather than gender. There would be far more options open to a person, and possibly less crime in the area of battering, bashing and suicide, as some of these crimes have to do with self-loathing and trying to fit into a ‘one size fits all’ mold that society has fashioned. Anger and hatred is then turned outward (battering and bashing) or on oneself (suicide). I think it’s a very archaic view of basic human sexuality; we are far more complex than that. If you look all through nature, you will find variations of sexuality. As Kinsey found, there is a continuum: 80 percent of the population is some variation of being bisexual, with 10 percent truly homosexual and 10 percent truly heterosexual.

Now, the bisexual part: well, you may or may not act on it. Most of us are conditioned to look at being gay as a negative thing (hence gay people marrying straight people in hopes of turning straight themselves). Again, personality (and how someone looks) has a lot to do with sexual interactions on everybody’s part. Rule of thumb: know thyself. Do what is correct and good for you, and that harms no one else, and allow others to do the same. No one can dictate what another should do.

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Name : Kim H., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Humanist, Age : 44, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : Actress, Playwright & Director, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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