[Katharine]

I’m a gay woman, and my relationship with my mother and father is very good. They both were extremely supportive of me as a child; they wanted the very best for me and encouraged me in all the ways you would hope parents would. I consider myself extremely lucky to have such great parents, and let them know that I feel that way, often. Mom and Dad were initially a bit sad and worried for me when they learned I was gay (they learned this when I was 21 — I had known since I was 18), but they were always loving and assured me that my sexual orientation would not cause them to reject me. Now they are very close with both me and my partner of 13 years, and regard her as part of our family.

I’m also a psychologist, and the research on this topic suggests that some gay people do have difficult relationships with their parents, just like some straight people do. But bad relationships with parents are not associated with sexual orientation (either gay or straight) in scientific studies. Thanks for asking your question and being willing to learn more!

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Name : Katharine, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Little Rock, State : AR, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[Katharine]

As a gay person, I don’t care why I’m gay. The U.S. Constitution protects its citizens on the basis of things that are inborn (e.g., race) and things that are chosen (e.g., religion). I don’t have to insist that I was ‘born this way’ because I don’t believe that choosing to be gay — or being born gay– is ‘sinful.’ Whether I was born gay or chose to be gay, I know that my partner and I are extremely moral, law-abiding, tax-paying, community-minded people who contribute much to our families, neighborhood, city, state, and country. It makes me very sad that we are treating a minority group so badly, when the vast majority are loving caring people who work hard and contribute so much to their communities. Sure, there are some gay people who engage in selfish, destructive behavior — there are some straight people who do that too. Are straight people who are selfish or self-righteous ‘born that way’ or do they choose selfishness and self-righteousness? And if they choose it, can we outlaw it? Of course not. So why are we still having this argument? Because, despite what Jesus taught about the equality of ALL sins (except self-righteousness, which he taught was the worst sin of all), some people feel they have the right to say that some sins are bigger than others, and thus worthy of forcing into state and federal laws.

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Name : Katharine, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Little Rock, State : AR, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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