[Judy]

We live in a mostly white area. Most of the lawns in our neighborhood are immaculately manicured. We recently had most of the grass removed from our front yard and replaced it with mulch and shade plants because my husband was obsessed with keeping the lawn thick and lush (despite the fact that our yard is mostly shade – almost forest-like). The mulch has put an end to that!

It had never occured to me that this was an ethnic issue. I would think of it as more of a “class” thing. If you’ve ever tried to keep a nice lawn, you know it’s not an inexpensive venture. It costs plenty, which is probably part of the reason people will continue to spend so much of their time on their lawns: Because they’ve got a bundle of money invested in it. And the reason we do it, to start with, is we want to see something pleasing to our eye when we look out in our yard.

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Name : Judy, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Burlington, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Stay-at-home mom, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Judy]

I know mine is not a popular opinion, but I think two-career families are at the root of the problem. Both parents are too tired from working all day to discipline their kids when they get home. They just want peace and quiet. Plus, many parents feel guilt over the lack of time they spend with their children, so they spoil them when they are around. Children are sent to school even when sick, because mommy and daddy have to go to work.

Children are not stupid. They are supposed to be our priority as parents, not our careers. Those children whose parents make them the priority know it. They know they are the most important thing in their parents’ worlds. I believe this is necessary.

I see this all the time. I have relatives and aquaintances who work full-time. I see the way they behave toward their children, and I see what their children get away with. I fear the way their children are going to behave when they get a little older. But most families are two-career families now, and no one wants to hear this. There’s no turning back.

The best thing that’s happened for children in this century is the trend toward home-schooling. I don’t think the children always learn the socialization skills they need, but at least it’s keeping their mothers home! Also, there seems to be a definite difference between the two-career families that have two Volvos in their three-car garage, and those who must work to make ends meet. Those who work because they truly have to seem to do better at focusing on their parental responsibilities. Please keep in mind that all of this is a blaring generalization, and it’s impossible to put all people in the same category.

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Name : Judy, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Burlington, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Stay-at-home mom, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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