[Jollygreengiant]

I don’t believe in this whole concept of people never being attracted to someone out side of their ethnic/racial group. Basically what it boils down to is a learned hyper-xenophobia that most of us are raised and immersed in since childhood. That is, we are taught and socialized to fear, mistrust, and dislike people who do not ‘look’ or ‘act’ like us. At one time this socio-cultural learned behavior may have served the purpose of allowing cultures and societies to survive and and persist in the face of aggressive take over by invading tribes, nations, cultural ideologies, and so forth. Therefore, it is no surprise that it becomes almost second nature to develop friendships and loving relationships with others who resemble you physically and culturally. We also prefer to live in communities that tend to be predominately made up of individuals who look and act like us further instilling the xenophobic attitude in our psyche. However, despite this socially learned behavior there is still the genetic predisposition or wiring in most humans to seek out diversity or difference in thought, environment, and people. This results is greater genetic complexity and diversification that eventually leads to greater adaptive capabilities and flexibility in changing environments and conditions. Hence the strong inherited aversion most of us have toward incest (i.e., having sexual relations with siblings or other family members who probably are more like you than anyone else on the planet). Thus, when you say that you do not find others outside your racial group attractive I find it very hard to believe. I am more willing to believe that it’s a conscience and personal choice on your part to only date individuals within your race because of past & current experiences/transgressions at the hands of others from another group, a learned belief that others are inferior to or somehow less than individuals from your racial group, or simply because of a deeply held fear of leaving the the comfort zone of being with people who look like you.

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Name : Jollygreengiant, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Clinical Research Associate, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class, 

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