[John]

I would want to say this is an unfair generalization, but unfortunately I have found, as a gay man, that what you say is often very true. It aggravates the hell out of me, as I am much less tolerant of this sort of behavior than you seem to be. And yes, I do agree with you about it being more prevalent in our community — but definitely NOT among lesbians. My only theory is gay men get into a mindset that since their lives go against social norms (or at least the more conservative ones) is that they feel that norms of etiquette do not apply either. Another experience I have often had is inviting people to dinner parties without even the slightest attempt at a return invitation (including even someething as simple as brunch at a restaurant). I am happy with my sexual orientation and do not think I am self-hating, so I do not believe my ciriticism of other gay men is based on this. It would be interesting to hear from others on this subject.

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[John]

I tend to disagree somewhat with Ben’s response. Most gay men have a preference for being bottom or top. It is not fixed and often changes with time. And for many it is just a preference and not an absolute must. From what I have often heard, most ‘bi-curious’ and ‘straight’ types in this country (USA) who have sex with men want to be bottom — they want the sensation of anal stimulation. I think it tends to be different in Latin America, the Middle East, etc.., where sexual orientation is linked up culturally with masculinity and a man can still be considered macho if he fucks another man.

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