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I recently lost 20 pounds. I'll tell you why I generally avoid overweight women as dating partners. It's not just because I find them less attractive. For me, being overweight was part of a lifestyle. There was a direct link between how I ate and how I felt, and there's often a viscious cycle between looking bad and low self-esteem as well. As a healthy man, I do not want to be with a woman who isn't healthy or possibly has a ton of self-esteem issues. It's crazy that women blame Paris Hilton and men for not accepting them. Go to the doctor, have him do a body fat analysis to see if you fall within normal range (if you're normal, you shouldn't worry about Paris, be yourself!) and if you're too heavy, go to the gym and eat better. Take action for your own life and stop blaming genetics.

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[John]

I think you need to make a distinction between God 'speaking to you' and miracles. Many people feel that God speaks to them, not in a day-to-day, 'well, God told me it was going to rain today' way, but in a deeply profound, personal sense. Some people (priests, nuns, missionaries, etc.) say God 'called' them to a profession. I don't think these people are crazy.

Miracles are another subject, though. As a Protestant Christian, I feel that God finished his miracle-making after the death and resurrection of Christ. Jesus presented us with the way to live our lives, and heaven is now open for us sinners. I tend to be extremely skeptical of supposed miraculous events happening today because often it's a way for someone to cash in on desperate people's beliefs.

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Hi Jessica. I'm wondering who these people are, and why you feel pressured. After all, you're 23 years old! Are you married? I'm 22, and I kinda feel the same pressure, sometimes. My cousin married his highschool sweetheart, and they have a couple of kids. That side of the family is now all about babies. They're already talking about me settling down and marriage. . . it's insane. My future is wide open, and I can barely take care of myself, let alone more human beings. Sometimes, when I'm drunk, I begin this huge diatribe about how I don't understand why anyone would want to have kids; they're the ultimate expression of vanity and whatnot. The weird thing is that I like kids. Go figure. Maybe you're feeling this pressure because at this age, when we're just starting out being truly independant, we start thinking about our futures and for many of us, that includes the possibility of marriage and possibly childrearing.

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[John]

Yeah, I've never heard of that before. Usually, when a man calls a woman a 'lesbian' it's because she ignores him in the first place. It's an excuse we sometimes make up to make ourselves feel better after rejection. It's now so cliche' of a thing to say to your friends, it's funny, like it helps cheer you up (but it's terrible if you say that to her face!). Not that that makes it right. But a guy who calls you a lesbian because you refuse to have sex with him the first night?! That's pathetic. That's stupid behavior that won't help him on the next date. . .

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In response to your question, I don't think it's a cosmetic industrial conspiracy (after all, razors are cheap), rather, it's a cultural difference. In the vast majority of cultures from all over the planet, the question of attractiveness in regards to sexual differences is often one of magnification. For example, women in general have smaller feet than men. In China, this became footbinding (I realize that it was also a male dominance thing, but it was of beauty as well. . .one need only examine the history of the Ming to Qing era to see the problem men had accepting non-footbound feet. . .they were considered hideous.) Other examples include the tribespeople in Thailand with neckrings to make their necks appear longer because women also typically have longer, slimmer necks. Victorian era women emphasized the thinness of torso to hips through painful and dangerous corsetts. There are many more examples if you care to study the cultural anthropology. Here in the US, because women are typically less hairy than men, we find hairless women the typical beauty standard--hair on lips, hairy legs, hairy underarms. I have to admit that I'm a part of this preference, and I know it shouldn't matter if a girl's got hair on her lip or not but it does.

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Sexuality is a complex subject, but I think this question is pretty easy. Either she's got some emotional/social hang-up, her partner is bad, physical problem, or it could just be a question of mechanics. Woman can be ready to go, just like a man, but in general, it takes a lot of preliminary work to get the motor running to a sufficient degree before the orgasm happens. EVEN THEN regular missionary style sex may not be adequate because of the positioning of the clitoris and the always elusive g-spot. Many women need manual stimulation to have the orgasm in addition to penis to vagina intercourse. I've never cared if she has had to do this, I know I would rather have a satisfied partner than be lame in the sack.

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Hi everybody, let's clear this thing up. A 'chode' is a penis that's wider than it is long. It's from a book by Kurt Vonnegut, either Slaughter House 5 or Breakfast of Champions. I forget. I do strongly recommend them, though!

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[John]

As a protestant, I believe the last poster's got it right. Mary was chosen, and that makes her blessed among women, but she's certainly not equal to Jesus Christ himself. The real danger in venerating Mary is to forget this fact. Protestants don't disregard 'the first 1500 years of the Church'. First, 'Catholic' means universal. . .so to us it's all Christainity that's being talked about. Secondly, the Catholic church wasn't responsible for 'the Dark Ages', the fall of the Roman Empire was. However, it could be argued that the Church was complicit in various money making deals and abuses of power including, but not limited to, the sale of indulgences, the Crusades, the Inquisition, and just generally upholding the 'divine kingship' principal that was prevelant throughout Europe at the time. I don't think it's right for you to condemn Protestants for wanting to improve the system. The Catholic Church at THAT TIME is a warning about what happens when religion gets involved in politics and economic gain. After all, we're just human beings, and bad things happen (even in carrying out God's word!) because of our weak, greedy natures. Finally, I'm by no means saying that this is over. . .just look at conservative (Protestant) Christainity's role in our government today. It's sad and pathetic.

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