[Jeff31158]

Two years ago I would have wholeheartedly said yes. Unfortunately, believing that has probably ruined my marriage. Similar to you, I went through a wild period seven years ago when I became single again following my divorce from my first wife. This was completely out of character for me and I carried on for about two years until I got over my anger and broken heart. I grew to realize that I never wanted that type of empty lifestyle again. I healed myself and again wanted a real monogamous relationship based on love, trust and understanding. I started dating again and then three years ago I miraculously met the absolute love of my life and she absolutely believed I was the love of her life. We completely clicked in every way. We got engaged within three months and married after six. Shortly after our wedding, she asked me for details about that period in my life. Thinking I had nothing to hide and wanting complete honesty in our relationship, I told her everything. Unfortunately, she had not yet told me everything, specifically that she was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and her father was a womanizer. She was absolutely floored by my revelation and has never recovered. Because of her childhood experiences she has a very difficult time trusting (through no fault of her own). Unfortunately my revelation shattered the trust she had about who I was. Her inability to trust me has completely upset our relationship. We have been in counseling for the last year, but it has been hell for both of us. Ironically, I have always been a completely faithful, honest person, but I will never again mention this period of my life to anyone. If you decide to tell someone, make sure you know them very well and make sure you prepare them ahead of time that the information you have to share might be painful. I’ve learned this the hard way.

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Name : Jeff31158, Gender : M, Age : 34, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, 

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