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- I am gay and when something life-altering comes up, I often say, 'Well, that's something to tell the grandkids!!'...even though it is probable I will never have kids. It's just my light-hearted way of dealing with the sad fact of not having my own grandkids.
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Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I can't agree with any of these responses. Over and over I have heard references to blacks cutting down other blacks who are intelligent or speak good English. Blacks seem to be accused of 'acting white' if they are interested in learning or if they speak clearly. Rapper/actor Will Smith, who is very well-spoken and intelligent, said he has been accused of trying to be white because he speaks well and has brains. And recently a book was written (by a black author) regarding how intelligence is frowned upon in the black community. Seems to me that blacks often keep themselves down because they are not accepted in their 'culture' if they have an interest in learning and/or they speak good English.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I'm not sure I understand the question. College is completely different for everyone. But I guess if a gay person went around their campus making everyone aware of his or her sexuality, he or she would have a certain kind of college experience. When I was in college, I didn't make myself known as gay, so I had a pretty 'normal' college experience. My freshman year, while I was still coming out to myself and having some problems with that, I found a gay-based professional to talk to, as well as a counselling group for gay people. In the group, I found I didn't relate to gay people very well and that I was happier being a regular guy than making 'gay' a huge part of who I was. I didn't feel the need to seek out gay student organizations. I told who I needed to tell, and the people who cared about me had no issues with it. As far as the specifics you mentioned, I can't see basing major college decisions (i.e. choice of institution to attend, course content, staff and faculty) on one's sexuality. My sexuality just isn't that big of a force in determining what I do with my life.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I personally cannot see why someone would want to change a part of who they are. Life is about understanding and accepting yourself and the world around you, and if you accept that homosexuality is a part of who you are and that you can't change it, what need is there to try and change it? Of course, some people feel the need to change their sexuality because of the guilt and fear it causes them, often in the name of religion. But in my opinion, this usually results in someone pretending to be something they are not. I believe that true happiness will come only when one accepts who he or she is. However, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi PhD specializes in helping male homosexuals who want to change their sexuality, and according to him and his case studies, it can be done. He wrote a book called 'Reparative Therapy For Male Homosexuality' if you are interested in reading about it. I bought it when I realized I was gay because I hated my homosexuality so much, I was desperate to find out how NOT to be gay. I never read the book; soon after I bought it I accepted my sexuality and have not thought about the book since. Here are also some websites to check out: Homosexuals Anonymous: , Parents & Friends of Ex-Gays: , or the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality: .User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,For me it wasn't that the show made me feel unattractive or unrepresented, it was that those type of men weren't what I consider sexy. I was frustrated because it focused on one type of attractiveness (muscled, no body hair, Adonis looks), although the range of types that people find attractive is so vast.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I have been wanting to ask this same question for a long time now. My 'ancestors' came over from Europe in the 17 and 1800s, and I gather that blacks were brought from Africa well BEFORE that...so aren't I closer to being 'European-American' than blacks are to being 'African-American'? But I dont have to designate my relatives were from Europe! I dont call myself a 'Gay-American' or 'Heterosexually-Challenged' because I dont feel the need to single out that one facet of myself. And I am not really 'white' either...I'm kind of pinkish, but 'white' suits me fine. To me this is just another way that blacks contradict themselves...they want to be equal, but many continue to make themselves a separate entity who are totally different. Aren't we all just Americans?User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,It depends. In my experience as an agnostic who has no relation to the popular view of God and Jesus, not to mention my experience as a gay person fending off attacks from believers, I encounter hostility daily, most from popular opinion and some directed specifically at me, from Christians who are out to condemn people like me who don't believe in exactly the same thing they believe in. It goes both ways. If you can tell me why I get hostility from Christians for not believing absolutely in their 'God', I might be able to tell you why you as a Christian have experienced hostility from atheists.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,My answer would be the same as that for almost all modern rock music. To me, most popular music these days is so "uninspiring and trite" because most people, musicians included, have little ability to find something new, exciting, inspiring or different in themselves to express creatively in writing or music. Becasue 'Christian' music is solely about God, Jesus, faith or spirituality in general, I feel it tends to be lifeless and unexciting because of such a limited subject matter. Inspiring and exciting music is that which explores new territory in lyrics and content, as well as in the music itself.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I certainly can appreciate 'love of life' because I have plenty of it myself, and I do not pass judgement on ANYone....I merely observe. What I have observed is that many blacks DO talk louder than others. 'Love of life' is fine, but when in a place where respectful quiet should be practiced such as a library or movie theater, I have observed that blacks have more of a tendency to talk loud. I dont think Tracy P. was passing judgement at all...just observing what many of us have observed before.User Detail :
Name : Jay, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 24, City : Asheville, State : NC Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,
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