[Janet]

First of all, yes, sex feels good if you are emotionally and physically prepared for it and you have a partner you are comfortable with. Like anything, sex gets better the more experience you have with it, so don’t expect your first time to be a phenomenal sexual experience. Also, having sex for the first time does not fundamentally change who you are, so don’t expect to feel different the next morning. As for the attitude toward pubic hair, that varies from man to man, but most I’ve talked to appreciate some attention to grooming. Not necessarily a Brazilian wax, but a neat trim doesn’t hurt. Usually, the pain associated with first intercourse is the rupturing of the hymen. How much this hurts depends on how thick the hymen is (it varies from woman to woman). There are a lot of activities that can rupture a hymen prior to first intercourse (horseback riding, tampon use, inserting the speculum for a Pap Smear, etc.), so you may not even have this pain. If you are concerned about this, you can always purchase a sex toy and rupture your own hymen beforehand. My (now) husband suggested this to me when we first started having sex, as he did not want to inflict pain on me during our first time having sex. Believe it or not, there are men out there who worry about hurting a woman if they are her first sex partner. Soaking in a warm bath afterward helped, too, so you may want to plan a romantic bubble bath as part of the evening. There are some other practical things that can make your first intercourse more comfortable. Definitely make sure you plan this. Your first time is not the time for spontaneous sex. Let your partner know explicitly that you are ready for intercourse when the time comes. As long as your belief system permits, make sure you are using at least one form of reliable contraception (and if your beliefs do not permit birth control, make sure you are ready to get pregnant). If one or more of your contraceptive methods is a barrier method (condom, diaphragm, cervical cap, etc.) practice putting it on/in a few times beforehand, so you’re comfortable with the application process. Use lots of water-based lubricant, even if you are using a lubricated condom, as the other big source of discomfort with first intercourse is chafing due to a lack of lubrication. Don’t rush things. Also, some women find it helpful to be on top, where they have more control over angle and depth of penetration.

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Name : Janet, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : Toledo, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, 

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