[Jane20953]

As a gay woman with a partner named Chris, I understand your frustration. My understanding of this type of response is that it is a knee-jerk reaction, albeit a kind one, to the fact that they think we think they may freak out on us ‘now that they know.’ In other words, they are reassuring us that ‘it’s OK’ with them because lots of people we tell might be immediately angry, disgusted or even violent in their reactions (gay-bashing). They’re letting us know that they are not that kind of prejudiced, biased person.

If you could stand some advice, I would respond with something kind, like: ‘Thanks. I think so, too.’ Or even avoid pointing it out, but use ‘she’ a lot in the next few sentences before they can assume you’re talking about a guy. They’ll get it, and you won’t put them in the position of having to reassure you at all.

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Name : Jane20953, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, City : Morton, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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