[Heather]

I was a topless dancer, and while I’ve given different reasons for doing it, I know the real reason stems from the fact that I was molested many times as a child and raped many times as a young adult. Although – as we have seen in the other responses – not all sex industry workers are victims of child abuse, I believe people like me strip to try to gain a sense of power and control over their sexuality. It is also a temporary rush and a high. It is a quick, easy way to get superficial affirmation and approval – a way to gain a false sense of self-esteem. Eventually this backfires. Perhaps there are people who work in the sex industry who don’t have issues like this, and perhaps the occupation will not affect them adversely, but I have a hard time believing it. I think a person has to have some sort of sexuality, self-esteem, male, control or power issue to choose this profession. Many women in the business feel their choices are limited because of education, money or raising a child alone, or perhaps they just feel they aren’t good at anything else. Other factors, like the glamorization of the job, the attention, the money (obviously), the fun of getting dressed up and looking sexy every night, the enjoyment of dancing and performing, getting to meet all kinds of different and interesting people, being able to talk about things you wouldn’t with a person you meet on the street, the free drinks/drugs/parties, etc., may all lure and keep a woman in the job, but in my case, and in the case of too many women in the industry, the underlying factor is having been taken advantage of, objectified and dehumanized in the past, mostly in a sexual manner. I, too, am white, was raised in a very affluent community, was sent to an expensive, private, Christian college and have a high IQ. I was living on my own and wanted more financial freedom and enjoyed the freedom the money from dancing gave me, but I bet I would have never thought seriously about being a stripper to get that money if it weren’t for some of my previous life experiences, namely molestation and rape.

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Name : Heather, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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