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I don’t know if things have always been this way, but I have never had men try to ‘regain the upper hand’ in college, or now. I did very well in school and never really had that come up as an issue in my relationships in college, though it did intimidate guys in high school. My degree is in engineering, which has been a predominantly male field, and most of the men I dated were engineers. I married an engineer! It was important to my husband that his wife would hold a full-time job so that he was not responsible for ‘bringing home the bacon’ on his own. This jived with what I know of many of the men I dated. He and I make similar amounts of money, and it has never been an issue that our successes are similar.

There may be some men out there who aren’t ready to accept women in ‘non-traditional’ roles, but in my peer group (20s-30s), that sentiment is not openly held.

On the question of speaking your mind, I’ve been working on my assertiveness. I am finding that there is a fine line between ‘bitchy’ and assertive. I have not been told (yet) that I’ve crossed that line, but I do recognize that it’s there. I see it in my reaction to the other women I work with (and how assertive/aggressive they are/are not). It may take time for the public to learn the difference as well. In the meantime, I’ve been learning when to speak my mind and when to use other methods to get my point across.

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Name : HM, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 26, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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