[Diane]

I’m a 15 year old female who has been in private schools all of my life and have even been to finishing school to learn to be a ‘proper lady’ (advise to parents: unless your daughter is going to be dining with royalty, don’t bother) I’m not movie star rich but I can go to the mall and pick out whatever I want within reason. I do feel seperated from my friends because of it. If I were to ask them to go shopping with me or invite them to my house they always end up saying ‘Diane , you are so spoiled’ I know when they say those things they are just joking but I feel hurt and akward whenever somebody calls me a daddy’s girl. I don’t know how to respond to that kind of comment because the people I know have less money and I don’t want to offend them. I do a lot of the time feel pressured to be perfect. If I am with a group of girls and they are talking about their home problems and I add to the conversation about how stifling my parents are my friends tell me that I don’t have a right to complain because I’m ‘rich’. I do kind of see their point but I’m 15! That’s what 15 year olds do, they complain about their parents! Just because I have money doesn’t mean I have a TV perfect family to go with it. I do also feel pressured into buying things for people for example drinks or expensive birthday presents. It leaves me feeling used because if I don’t all of the sudden I’m a snob. At one point I felt that if I was going to be treated like a snob I might as well act like one. I didn’t feel guilty going into sehpora and spending money in front of other people for once. I was doing what was expected. I soon reverted back to my submissive state of trying to please everyone and constantly trying to cover my financial situation. I am interested to see how this will effect me in the future, as I am so young. But I do know how it feels now, and in answer to your first question, Dan, it hurts. If i could give advise to teenagers with rich friends it would be just leave the money out it. Don’t expect anything just because you know them. Also NEVER even as a joke, say they are spoiled . It leaves the person feeling like they have done something wrong and doubt about themselves as a person. It’s just the same as if a rich person made fun of a poor person. It’s wrong.

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Name : Diane, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 15, City : Des Moines, State : IA, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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