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You probably won’t believe me because it sounds so, well, boring, but if I find a man attractive, the next thing I think is, ‘I wonder what he’s like? Smart? Funny? Moral? Does he have it on the inside?’ I know that sounds decidely unsexy, but I’m more interested in finding a spiritual companion. But good looks are a bonus…
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Name : Diana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Gold Coast, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : High School Diploma,I think Mike’s and Stacee’s responses are a little off the mark. Granted, there are people who want their music to intrude on others’ comfort, or are simply inconsiderate in general, but I and many others are neither. I am considerate of others to the point where my own comfort is compromised, all day every day, when I am out in public. I endure loud youths in cinemas and malls, I ignore men swearing like sailors and speaking crudely in my presence, I politely absorb the ignorant remarks made by strangers who don’t like young people, men who feel the need to whistle and holler (or men who think I’m stupid because I’m blonde!). But when I want to listen to music, I like to turn up the volume. It’s my one big indulgence, my stress relief, my ‘leave me alone’ to the rest of the world. This is because a) Music is my biggest love in life, and it brings me great joy and enthusiasm to crank it up; b) The music I listen to is very bass- and vocal-oriented, so turning it up enhances these frequencies, helping me to really immerse myself in the sound. I’m not getting drunk and getting violent (or driving), I’m not doing drugs or beating people up for recreation. Music takes care of my frustrations.
I have no desire to bother other people with my music. It’s not a malicious thing. Believe me, if I could afford to soundproof my room, I most certainly would. But generally, loud music is uplifting to we young’uns. It isn’t always about poor upbringing. Nor is everything we do intended to bug others.
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Name : Diana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Gold Coast, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : High School Diploma,Frankie’s response was quite interesting – so perhaps, based on his response, adults should take responsibility for all these ‘negative influences’. If kids hadn’t been bombarded by the violent/disrespectful images that adults perpetuate for the sake of entertainment, maybe we’ll have more positive kids. If you hear something bad enough times, you start to believe it. If kids are always treated poorly, or told they are quasi-criminals, it will become a self fulfilling prophecy. It seems that kids are blamed for so much, yet the adults taught them, but still the kids are the ones who need to change, and all because the adults (who were supposed to set an example) are uncomfortable with adolescents around. Yet the kids aren’t mature/’literate’ enough to handle such responsibility? I wish people would pick which it is.. I’m 21 and I still get stared at like a hawk when I walk into a store!
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Name : Diana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Gold Coast, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : High School Diploma,I don’t know about others, but I can’t help but to use terms that are generally thought of as ‘black’, or wear certain styles of clothing. I listen to R&B and rap constantly, because it’s what I identify with. I can’t ‘feel’ other genres of music like I can R&B and rap. These styles of music, dress and speech have portrayed more culture and originality for me than anything else. I also write and sing R&B, which I know is hard for some people to grasp (how can some white chick ever have enough ‘soul’ to pull that off?), but I’m not trying to act black. I didn’t ever think I was crossing racial territories by listening to or participating in this music. It is only recently that I realised some people resent white people appreciating something that is thought of as for black people, and this hurts me because I feel I’d lose a sense of identity if I denied my desire to create this music. To me, music knows no color. As for ‘black terms’, anyone who knows more than ‘you go, girl!’ would know that this vernacular is more concise and shows more flare than plain old English. And after listening to the music 24/7, you can’t help but pick up certain terms. However, I don’t use terms that are irrelevant to my lifestyle, eg, I wouldn’t walk around referring to my friends as ‘homies’ or ‘g’ because we are not a gang, they are not gangsters, so it would be pretentious. It’s when people spout words and phrases for the sake of it that it’s insincere, and, I feel, a little disrespectful of the hip hop culture as a whole.
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Name : Diana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Gold Coast, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : High School Diploma,Males are exposed to the female body a lot. Men start out being breastfed. They see breasts in movies, magazines, everywhere. They tend to have access to pornographic material at a younger age than most females. They already know what the female anatomy looks like. Girls, on the other hand, may see their baby brother’s pre-pubescent genitalia, but that’s often it. Very few movies show male genitalia, also. So a lot of women would still get shocked and embarrassed by the sight. I doubt it is a malicious thing. I know I giggle when I’m speechless or shy.
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Name : Diana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Gold Coast, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : High School Diploma,
