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I am Asian and was in a public-speaking class in high school (Toastmasters). We had Asian nationals from places like Thailand in the class – they were all shy, too. To me, the No. 1 reason they were shy was that certain students were making fun of them (i.e. their accents). If you want to help them, tell the ridiculing students to behave.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m an Asian male in the U.S. I’ve been here for the last 18 years. First, it’s not about confidence. We’re talking about racism. –This is a race-issue– A confident Asian male still must deal with racial stereotypes. Confidence is the surface only. Second, you mentioned that the poster should try dating non-Asian women. Answer: I would love too. The only problem is, in the U.S., an Asian man is constantly rebuffed by non-Asian females. Those very same non-Asian females suggest that we Asian men (you guessed it) date Asian women! And if it’s confidence you want to talk about, then let’s talk about that. Try being confident when, since you were a child, men twice your size called you a ‘chink’ or a ‘nip’ and beat your body to a pulp. Or how about being ‘worlied’ (forcing a ‘nerd’s face down a dirty toilet)? Or being kicked out of a dance by the popular crowd, because you’re an Asian-nerd, or a smack? Or what about TV and movies, constantly delivering a barrage of negative stereotypes of Asian men, when Asian women are often admired by the media as exotic sexual princesses? Can you honestly say (for example) that an obese female should be blamed for losing confidence? If you can be confident in such circumstances, then I commend your strength. But for now, I think the problem is that you don’t really know ‘what it’s like.’ When I and my Asian male friends in high school (and down to the present day) tried to date outside our race, we were rejected, almost without question. You’re talking about guys who tried everything they could to be ‘good men,’ to get involved in women’s voting leagues, and other philanthropic, progressive organizations. Nothing came from that. And now, women are saying that we’re chauvinists and not interested in dating non-Asian women — it makes me and others angry, angry for being ‘toyed’ with. This is not a game. The so-called angry Asian men are noting stereotypes and general racist ideas, which have been around since America’s ‘Yellow Peril’ during the Gold Rush years of the mid-1800s. We are by no means whining — we just want people to listen.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,What you and some others have said is exactly the problem. It’s true that Asian males have had it better, traditionally. But many Asians, females included, deeply resent (what they perceive to be) an arrogant white assumption that Asian culture is male-chauvinist. Asian culture is no more or less male-dominated than other cultures in the world, including American culture — but stories about drowning female babies, foot-binding, etc. leaves nothing about the ‘good’ side of Asian culture. America is not the only enlightened place on the planet.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My feelings: Another white family adopting Asian females; never seen a white family adopt an Asian boy; another Asian female to be white-washed and to believe that white men are superior to Asian men; Asian boys are not worth adopting; Asian men are not adorable enough to be adopted; Asian men could all die off, and it wouldn’t matter.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why is it more wrong when race is involved? A black man leaves a black woman because he prefers a white woman. There is absolutely nothing she can do about it, to improve or redeem herself. She is black and will never be white – that’s the problem with race-preferencing. Something neutral (race) has been turned into something wrong (inferiority). Instead, that black man will find happiness and success, while the black woman is left alone, and perhaps angry. The racial hierarchy has begun, where the “prettier” races have it easier than the “uglier” races. That’s the result of racial preferencing.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have to disagree, respectfully, with Dee’s remarks, and this also addresses the original poster’s concerns. Preferences and dislikes for men never hurt the woman – she’s getting what she wants. But, ultimately, it hurts the man who is rebuffed. It hurts women, too. The statement, “It does no one any real harm” simply isn’t true. When a black man leaves a black woman to be with a white woman, the black woman is left alone. When an Asian woman leaves an Asian man to be with a white man, the Asian man is left alone. We may be able to rationalize that it’s “OK,” but our justification cannot put a blind eye to what we see out there in the real world – that people are often treated less-than-worthy because of race. That applies to politics and sex alike. As an Asian man who’s been rejected aplenty by Asian women in favor of white men, I know that from experience.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian-American, Religion : Campbellian, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
