[Dave26009]

No doubt it’s difficult. And, I wouldn’t say it’s so much an event as it is a process. For me, it was scary, but I did not end up losing many friendd because of it. In fact, all of the friendships I valued were strengthened by my coming out.

Coming out to parents is tough. Unless you have a remarkably close relationship with your parents, I’d save that one until you have a few others under your belt.

The very first person I told was a good (female) friend. It was the scariest thing I’d ever done, even though I knew she’d be accepting. Four years later we have the most intensely close friendship. It’s wonderful. I have since been told it’s not uncommon for guys to be more comfortable coming out to women.

The last piece of advice I offer is that you understand why you want to come out. For me, it was a simple matter of wanting to end years of lies and be open with who I really am. I was 29, alone and scared that I’d die alone, never finding that right person. Life for me, despite a few bumps along the way, is a million times better. And I’ve been in a happy, committed relationship for four years. Life is good!

Go at your own pace, and best wishes to you.

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Name : Dave26009, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 34, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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