[Dan27348]

It’s hard for a man to talk about weight and physical attraction without sounding like a shallow jerk. I’ll make an attempt, though. There’s a lot of dating double standards out there. From what I’ve experienced, a woman’s preference for a man who is (much) taller is considered ‘natural selection in action’ and ‘the desire to feel like a woman,’ whatever that means. If a man expresses a preference for women who are not overweight, though, we are considered ‘shallow’ and ‘superficial.’ Have a look through some of the ‘women seeking men’ personal ads online sometime. You’ll find that most women are looking for men who are taller than they are. The majority of Denver-area women with online personal ads set an arbitrary minimum height limit of 6′, even when they are 5′ 2′ or 5′ 4′ tall. (Apparently ‘vertically challenged’ at 5′ 10′, I was never called ‘short’ in my life until I moved to Colorado.) Just as most women have a preference for dating taller men, the majority of men aren’t attracted to women who seem bigger than they are. I’m not necessarily seeking a skinny Calista Flokhart-like waif or a Barbie type. A few extra pounds, literally, doesn’t bother me — I’m not physically perfect, and I don’t expect my partner to be either. However, I’ve never been attracted to ‘rubenesque,’ ‘thick,’ ‘full figured,’ ‘plus-sized,’ ‘zaftig,’ or ‘cuddly’ women. I wish women would respect that fact, superficial at it may seem, just as I’m expected to respect the fact that I’m seen as ‘short’ to a woman who’s close to my height — we all have our preferences, whether we admit them or not. As for the less-than-desirable men seeking supermodels, well, I run across _lots_ of personal ads from ‘average’ and ‘full-figured’ women who are only seeking ‘athletic,’ six-foot plus men, some going so far as to mention income requirements. Being hypocritical and superficial is certainly not the sole domain of men.

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Name : Dan27348, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 33, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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