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I saw a show about parenting and WWII. One of the points was that when parents, who served in the war came back home, they applied the discipline they’d learned in the military services to their children, who resented it. Those children, as adults, were determined to raise their children differently – with a lot less restrictions and more demostrations of love. Those less restricted children, have taken it a step farther. They want their children to do and be everything. Children are not told ‘no,’ they are treated like small adults (i.e. go to bed when you are ready), and they are enrolled in every lesson or group going. Two things are going on. First, parents are having to figure out parenting from scratch because we don’t have extended family support in our mobile society. Second, our children have to be super because otherwise we’re bad parents/people. Also, somewhere along the way, we were told that we ‘can have it all,’ and a lot of people have bought that idea. Sleeping and free time are a waste. So we have a lot of sleep deprived parents, trying to make something easier in their life. It’s all happened with the best of intentions, and not a lot of foresight.
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Quantico, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher's aide, Education level : 2 Years of College,I’ve been close to where you are now. I didn’t date at all in high school, nor the first two years of college. I was shy, had that strict Catholic upbringing and honestly wasn’t meeting anyone I wanted to date. After I turned 21 I was getting frustrated, too. I started dating guys I met through work – a date here, a date there. I met a guy I was serious about, got my heart broken, joined the military and met my husband. I knew right away that he was who I’d always been looking for. He’s a wonderful guy. We’ve been married 17 years. When the time is right, you will meet the right person. Try to enjoy and learn all you can while you are single so that you have more to bring to the relationship. You’re not the only one waiting.
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Quantico, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher's aide, Education level : 2 Years of College,I totally respect your way of dealing with your money. There are enough problems in a marriage that any you can eliminate are great! However, the reason that couples splitting the finances, having separate accounts, and drawing up prenuptial agreements gets a second glance is the three words in Bill’s response – ‘just in case’ There could be good reasons for keeping separate accounts, but it feels to us that share, like separate finances could mean lack of committment to the marriage. By keeping your own accounts, you can keep secrets from each other and you can accrue the finances to just walk away. Before my husband and I married, we agreed that divorce is not an option. There is no separate money and there is no ‘just in case.’
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Quantico, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher's aide, Education level : 2 Years of College,Murray C., it’s not that easy. I’ll agree that they lack ‘common sense’ because they lack our common experience. Their ‘world’ is so different from ours that it’s a foreign country. We need to do more foreign exchange with them like what Marcus is doing. I volunteer at a local school where I would not send my own children. The students are wonderful, loving people who are abused, neglected and worldly beyond their years. If they’ve ever lived someplace else, it’s probably because someone else had custody of them. The teachers have to teach them family relationships because cousins are referred to as brothers, as in anyone else their age living in the house. So to answer the original question, I wouldn’t be too sure that all of those children are blood siblings. Remember that we are all a product of the way we were raised. Probably the best thing this country could do for that economic group is a student exchange or other opportunity that helps them see a different world and a different way of thinking (what we are all seeking on Y? Forum).
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 40, City : Quantico, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher's aide, Education level : 2 Years of College,
