[Cathy32449]

First, you need to really think about not the act itself, but what happens after the fact …. will you feel guilty because of your upbringing or religion? Are you ready to accept the risk of disease or pregnancy? Will you be hurt because your partner may not be as loving or committed as you would like him to be? When I lost my virginity at the age of eighteen, I did so because I felt that it was expected of me and that it would mean nothing – it was ‘just my body’. Afterwards, I regretted it very much. Assuming that you will be with someone who feels the same way about you that you do about him, first you need to educate yourself. The website of the American Social Health Association has very accurate information about sexually transmitted diseases, which are probably MUCH more common than you think – you don’t have to sleep around to be at risk. There are lots of reliable sources about birth control; make sure you are using it properly. For the sexual act itself, well, my favorite sources is the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. Silly name, but it has responsible, straightfoward information (www.goodvibes.com). To answer your questions, yes, it will probably hurt. How much depends 1) on the state of your hymen (a thin tissue inside your body) – if you are very physically active, it may even be partly broken already, and 2) how relaxed and physically aroused you are. If you’re not aroused, sex hurts even if you’re not a virgin! Water-based lubricant (oil breaks down condoms) will help. The pain – I can’t describe it very well, as I really haven’t been injured very much in my life. In my experience, the actual pain didn’t last much beyond the experience itself, and then I felt like I had my period for a few days (complete with blood!) Pubic hair – well, don’t worry about your body. Would you go to a dance club and then spend the whole time worrying if your hair was exactly right? If so, you’re just not having a good enough time. It depends on the man. Some men don’t like hairless, it makes them feel like pedophiles. Some don’t like ‘landing strips’, they look silly. Some don’t like hair, it’s messy. Natural is generally the way to go, but then if you want to receive oral sex some men get squeamish. The hair in the mouth thing. Anyway. If you’re not sure about sex, just get yourself a vibrator, they’re more efficient anyway! Men are great, but not worth regrets. Good luck!

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Name : Cathy32449, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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