[Carl19233]

Quite simply, males are ashamed to be virgins. In this day and age, society tells us that males always have an overriding desire for sex. (Which isn’t true, but that’s another issue.) Under this assumption, if you’re still a virgin at too advanced an age, you’re considered to be a pathetic loser, because obviously you’ve desired sex that entire time and been unable to get it. Or worse, you’re considered gay. But when do you cross the line into loserdom? At 30? When you graduate college? The movie ‘American Pie’ shows four male high-school students who are ashamed to be virgins at 18, even though that’s hardly abnormal. I get the impression that the age at which it’s shameful to be a virgin has gone down in recent decades. Males who are nearing that threshhold without sexual experience don’t have much reason to admit to it in front of the other guys, so it’s easy for young men to get a false impression that their peers are all experienced. This lowers the threshhold further. You state that ‘Generally we prefer virgin guys who won’t pressure us anyway.’ I suggest that the guys don’t know this. Indeed, even if you told them so, they’d have a hard time believing it; it runs contrary to what they’ve been told by their peers and by the media. Plus, bear in mind that the prospect of sex – even if it’s just distant, eventual sex – is the chief reason guys date. From that point of view, the idea that you ‘prefer virgin guys’ is dismally absurd, like saying that a particular store is your favorite place to shop, but you have never bought anything there and never intend to.

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Name : Carl19233, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 34, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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