Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences 
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This may be a little off the topic… While I applaud you for realizing that you have white privelege that may play a role in your relationship, it seems you are very much focused on it and you could end up being patronizing without meaning too. Admittedly, this is a double edged sword-from my own experience with my white friends, I don’t want them to forget that I’m black, but at the same time I don’t want them to remember that I’m black and feel like they have to treat me a certain way to make a connection….(hope that makes sense) I’d say start out easily…ultimately my friends are my friends because we like the same sort of stuff, etc. Ask her to go shopping or out to lunch and deal with the dynamics as they happen. Treat her like you’d treat any other new pal…I wouldn’t expect to have a deep discussion having to do with race or anything else in the early stages of friendship and I bet she wouldn’t either. The deep issues people talk about with friends come when there’s good foundation to stand on. Simple, but true….Rome wasn’t built ina day. Good luck!
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Name : Candy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Thank you for asking this question. On a personal level, you could start by making friends. Have you ever had dinner at a black person’s home? Or any other races? When we make friends with people who are different then us, then we begin to see how we are alike. I’m not saying purposely try to befriend someone because they are a different race, but really make yourself opening to meeting and mingling with people of different races. Get to know a black co-worker, try worshiping at a multicultural church, join a club, etc. Something that exposes you to others. If you have kids, encourage them in activites that open their eyes to different people and cultures in the world.
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Name : Candy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
