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- My husband prefers to ejaculate in my face. I don't like this, so we meet halfway and he does it on my chest or back. We use protection, so I still don't understand his preference. Does anyone understand this?
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Name : Marie22254, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Age : 39, City : Boston, State : MA Country : United States,I also have the desire to ejaculate on my girlfriend's face (she is beautiful and has very erotic features). But she says she would find it 'humiliating.' I guess she's right: it is a power thing... One advantage, though - semen is meant to be good for the skin.User Detail :
Name : M.K., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Sydney, State : NA Country : Australia, Education level : Technical School,Why not ask him? I imagine some men might be of the same mind as the last respondent, i.e. that it's about power and humiliation and that sort of stuff. This would probably be the case if he insists on doing it over your objections. Some women probably enjoy it from this point of view, too: they like the humiliation, being dominated, etc. But to me, it's more about feeling that the woman is into the sex and every aspect of it. In many ways, male-female sex is about the man enjoying 'invading' his woman and the woman enjoying being 'invaded' by her man. The application/swallowing of his semen is merely an extension of this concept: applying it to intimate areas (like the face or breasts) or depositing it into intimate areas (vagina, mouth, anus) appeals to these same instincts. In addition, semen is literally a living part of a man's body (in some senses, one of the most important ones, too). Moreover, it is a part that can be freely and repeatedly given away (and, in fact, this instinct is encouraged by evolutionary forces). To the casual observer, it also has the power to create life (babies). It accompanies the high point of the sexual experience for the man (as in the word 'climax'). All these things tend to imbue semen with a kind of vaguely magical 'life/energy' quality in a man's subconscious mind (many societies also explicitly hold this view). Given all this, for a woman to reject it 'cuz it's icky' seems anything from prissy to personally insulting. (After all, how would you feel if your husband stopped giving you cunnilingus every few seconds to spit out your vaginal fluid?) On the other hand, for her to revel in it and love sensing it in every way (texture, smell, taste, heat, the way it feels sliding down her throat, etc.) is to feel totally loved and accepted by an enthusiastic lover. (And who wants to be with an unenthusiastic lover?) Also, by injesting it or applying it to the skin as though it were a cream, a woman can literally make a small part of him part of herself - also an appealing idea.User Detail :
Name : Steve, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 29, City : San Mateo, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Computer Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Your answer, besides being tedious, was wrong.User Detail :
Name : A-Sole23988, City : Lmtree, State : AK Country : South Africa,I have to say as a woman, and one who does enjoy performing oral sex on my husband, the idea of him ejaculating in my face not only does NOT appeal to me, it disgusts me. How can anyone mistake this for an act of love and caring for your partner? Unless she confesses that it arouses her as well, the only other reasons I can see being given are truly selfish in nature. I also tend to beileve these 'Images of eroticism' must have been learned from the pornographic industry, and not from partners exploring what appeals to each other. I would think that the idea of making his partner uncomfortable during such an intimate moment, would make the man uncomfortable too. If not, I have to wonder what else is underlying this desire of his.User Detail :
Name : Sheryl, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 33, City : Independence, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think Steve has several good points to his arguement. But I agree most when he said that having a man cum on you doesn't have to be 'icky'. It all depends on your relationship with your lover. If you haven't been together long, I could see how you would feel 'used' and powerless. The key is to talk about your fantasies and what you do and don't like in sex. The best part of sex is knowing that you're making the other person feel good physically and otherwise, so to not talk about what you want is setting yourself up for disappointment. If a person doesn't want cum on their face, they should say so.User Detail :
Name : BD, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 33, City : Jacksonville, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : administrative assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,He is being a very unselfish person. He shoots a wad on your face because he knows it is extremely good for the skin and it's his contribution to your everlasting beauty. If he shoots a load in your mouth, that's even more unselfish, as he knows this will replenish as well as sustain your youth AND beauty.User Detail :
Name : Dave-D25962, Gender : M, City : Norfolk, State : VA Country : United States,I have the desire to ejaculate on my girlfriend's face (she is beautiful, with very erotic features) - but she says she would find it 'humiliating.' I suspect she's right - it's a power thing. It does guarantee your husband is not fantasizing about another woman, though, so it's not all bad.User Detail :
Name : M.K., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Sydney, State : NA Country : Australia, Education level : Technical School,Because your question is so specific, it would be wrong to generalize this answer. The best thing for you to do is to ask YOUR husband why he likes to do this. Different people like to do that for their own reasons, so I think you'd get the answer pertaining to you from your husband.User Detail :
Name : Orleanas19981, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 19, City : Boston, State : MA Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College,Guys are dumb asses. They think it's cool to ejaculate on a woman's face, but women hate this. Men do it because they look at too much porn and think this action is normal.User Detail :
Name : Sandra28304, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 21, City : Amsterdam, State : NA Country : The Netherlands, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I've spoken to my male friends about this and they were rather scathing about a friend of theirs who used to do it to his secretary; they were amazed she let him do it. I agree with the others - it seems to be a domination thing.By they way, would he let you squirt stuff in his face?
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Name : Jenny30926, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 33, City : Cambridge, State : NA Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : manager, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I love when my boyfriend does this. I love every part of him, so what could be more beautiful than your loved one sharing all of himself anywhere he desires? When he ejaculates on my face (as opposed to me swallowing), I see the look of pleasure on his. As a matter of fact, it was I who suggested he do it in the first place; he had never even thought of it.If it makes you that uncomfortable, you should probably ask your husband why he wants to do it. If the reason is acceptable (i.e. not to humiliate you but to share with you), then perhaps you can re-examine your objections, and then maybe share in this beautiful and often tasty climax.
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Name : Katie26700, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 29, City : Toronto, Ontario, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Sales/Marketing, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It's hard to explain, but it probably started long before you and has just carried on. When a man ejaculates on a woman's neck, they call it a 'pearl necklace.' I think it's degrading to your soulmate to ejaculate in her face or mouth during oral sex, but I never felt that way before marriage. It actually enhanced the orgasm. Eventually he will see that it doesn't turn you on and stop doing it.I once broke off a sexual friendship with a person who was masturbating me and upon ejaculation wiped it all over my clothes instead of waiting for me to get her a towel to clean it off her hand. You have taken the proper steps of telling him how you feel, and now it's up to him to understand your feellings. It will work out, but it will take time because your husband is into his orgasmic feelings - not the effect it has on you.
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Name : J.B. Jones, City : Tallahassee, State : Fl Country : United States,Well, Dave D. and Steve, how would you like it done to YOU? 'Good for the skin' - nonsense. 'Giving' something to her? Crap. Bet you couldn't stop laughing when you were writing that. It is truly about power, domination and watching too much misogynistic porn. Women, if you don't like it - just say no.User Detail :
Name : Diana, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 42, City : Leicester, State : NA Country : United Kingdom, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That's not always the case. I'm kind of 'take-it-or-leave-it' about ejaculating on my fiancee's face, but one time after I happened to suggest it (we were trying to think of new things to do), she was suddenly enthusiastic about it, and now she requests it on a regular basis.User Detail :
Name : antics, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Mountain View, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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