[Andres]

most ‘ethnic’ women are usually ‘thicker’ than whites. I like that kind of body myself, but you’re right a lot of white men dont. I think white men often wont talk to non-white women b/c they think black/latina women want a black/latino man and b/c white men are often seen as ‘sexually inferior’ to ‘ethnics.’ I have heard this from the mouths of black and ‘ethnic’ women and yes this does make me think that they are not interested in white men.

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[Gary]

It’s easy to generalize about ALL white men. Some men don’t date outside of their race, religion or ethnic background. Some men will have sex with women outside of their race/ethnic group, but won’t date them or marry them. That tells you something about how they perceive women of color. But also, some men just aren’t aggressive. Perhaps you can be sociable without seeming like you want a date. That might allow a man who you might be interested in to get to know you.

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[Shane]

I, too, am a multiracial woman who receives attention from black men. I have noticed that fewer white men express interest in me, though I have noticed occasional glances from them. I would not agree that white men do not find me (or you!) attractive. In fact, I’m married to a white man who loves the way I look. I think many white men are more subtle in their glances or, sometimes, want to wait to get to know a woman they consider ‘different’ from them before expressing romantic interest in her; as you suggested, they may feel some intimidation. Also, I think the political climate of the city where one lives may have a bearing on the matter. Here in Jacksonville, a conservative city, interracial couples are rare, but we do exist.

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[Kimberly]

Chrissy, I’m a white woman and am married to a white man. In my single days, I dated several black men and one Arab man. The problem you may be experiencing is a fear of being ‘different’. Maybe the white men you’ve encountered are afraid to present you to their family and friends. You just never know what their peers and parents are like. My father is a die-hard biggot as is most of my family. Sometimes people are afraid to follow their heart, and focus instead on the views of peers. Sad, but true. Besides, would you want a man, white, black, latin or otherwise to not be able to follow his heart for fear of backlash? The ones that can’t move past that aren’t worth your time.

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[Rick]

No all white guys do…I like your flavor very much!! 🙂

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[Emily25372]

you know, i think it may have something to do with size, even more than race. it sounds like you’re shaped like me, rounder, and i’ve had the same experiences. if you watch tv and movies and magazines you would think that all white women are skinny–(there are NO ‘famous’ white women of my size and shape), and so maybe thats the view white men are expecting everyone to live up to. i have always gotten attention from black guys and latin guys, but not so much from white guys, and i’m about as pale as a person can get.

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[Jane]

Your own answer and the previous response have pretty much hit the bullseye. I hardly ever see a white man with a non-white woman. From conversations that I’ve had about this issue with white men, they say they might take the sexual opportunities if offered, but not much attraction or interest past that. By the same token, I never an give a non-white guy the first look. I ‘m sure there is the exact opposite opinion out there from mine–but there it is.

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[Gen G.]

I’ve also experienced White men’s aversion to saying hello to me or directly addressing me when passing by me in the hallway at work, or otherwise expressing an attraction towards me (although I suspect there is in fact an attraction on their part). I don’t know exactly why this is. My best guess is White men simply do not know how to communicate to women of color in this manner, based on their own ignorant perceptions of Mexican women, Black Women, etc. For some reason however, White men (and women) do not place the same biases upon Asian women, and in fact place them in a superior position, higher than Latinas and Black females. Of course, this lends itself directly to prejudiced thinking based on skin color, and nothing else. Also, I do not mean ignorant in a negative manner but in the truest sense of the word – they only know what they hear from other White people, and have never bothered to get to know non-White women as individuals. One thing I really like to do when I am being ignored by White men who pass me in the hallway at work, I’ll deliberately say out loud to them ‘Hi (name)! How ya doing?!’ and force them to acknowledge me by embarrasing them on purpose!

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[Marc Jones]

I just do not find the features of black women attractive. I pefer light complextions and as I presume you know The facial features of the typical black women and white women are different. Blacks generally have a wider nose. Just not attractive. Some black women are attractive to me; the black supermodel Naomi Campbell I believe her name is, is pretty attractive but she has very white facial features. On the oterh hand my room mate also very white, like black women. Especially ones with a big as and big breasts. He likes almost any women with a big as and big breasts. He does not like Naomi Campbell, something about her forehead going on forever 😉 Plus there is always the fact that people are more comfortable with others they identify as there own kind. Skin color is a noticabler trait on most people. Experiments have been done were they had several people(30+) brought together to particapet in team events. Before being divided into teams the people segragate on racial lines. After tehy were split into teams, tehy were given colored t-shirts. From then they seperated on the lines of the t-shirt. Except for a white girl and a white boy who dare to cross the color line and carry on with a friendship over the course of teh week. Almost everyone was upset at them from both teams. So if you want a white guy to notice get every one to wear yellow shirts and you and him were red shirts. You won’t be able to get away from him.

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[Jay31094]

I think you’re seeing a racial issue where non exists. I am a shapely white female, who has full boobs, a big butt and a tiny waist and have always been approached by black or hispanic men rather than white men. Using your explaination, I could ask ‘why don’t white men like white women?’ but of course this would be completely misguided. In reality, black and hispanic men have a penchant for a fuller figure, whereas white men (and Asian) seem to prefer slender. Its that simple.

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[Karl G. Siewert]

I am a white guy and happily married, so I’m not approaching anybody right now. I do look, though. In general, I find that darker skin or obviously ethnic features add to a woman’s attractiveness. However, if I were in a position to approach a single woman, I would probably be less likely to talk to one who was obviously multiracial, for a number of reasons: 1) I am intimidated by beautiful women. The fact that your ethnicity makes you more attractive would just make me more tongue-tied. 2) As a white man, I know there is a history of objectification and stereotyping of ‘exotic’ women, and I’d be afraid to be seen as looking only at your skin rather than at you. 3) In general, I am more cautious and self-conscious when talking to non-white people. I am hyper-aware of the way I sound, constantly asking, ‘Am I being racist?’ ‘Am I offending?’. This makes me something less than a witty conversationalist.

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[Rob Young]

I am white and live in NH, a very white state. To be honest I am not attracted to minority women for several reasons. Number 1, I wouldn’t want to date out of my race because I consider that a downward action. White woman are seen as more beautiful and more intelligent then minority women, so why wouldn’t I date the best? Number 2, I am not physically attracted to minority women because (to me) they look dirty. Nice fresh milky white skin, or dark skin? Then there’s this entire big butt and big boob thing that black guys like? I can’t understand it. What is so sexy about a women with a huge ass? It just means the the woman is out of shape and lazy. So, in my opinion white women are the cream of the crop, why lower my standards. I’d look silly pushing a little minority baby in a stroller…that’s absurd.

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[Moe20291]

I was in the service, and what I observed is that the white guys tend to like Asian women. I don’t know why? but they do. If the mate outside of the white community,they usually choose Asian women. Sometimes they’ll go latin. Very seldom will the mate with a woman that has any noticable african heritage. Odd as it is, white women that mate outside of the white community usually choose black men or sometimes latin. The latin men they choose are usually the darker ones. The ones with noticable african ancestry. I don’t know why? But it has been my observation.

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[Jason R.]

I just don’t find ‘ethnic’ women attractive.

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[Keimo]

I was wondering the same thing. I go to a predominantly white college and wouldn’t mind conversing with a white guy, but they act so scared, like I’m going to start cursing them out or something.

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