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- Why does it seem that white men are not attracted to black women, and vice versa? I ask because when I see interracial couples, I normally see white women with black men, black men with Latino women, etc.
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Name : Jummy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 21, City : Jamaica, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College,I don't think what you're seeing applies to everyone. For instance, I absolutely love black women. In the past couple of months, I've been spending more time with black ladies, and I love them more than any white person I've ever met. They've got energy, they're fun to be around and they're caring. I don't see how anyone could not like them.User Detail :
Name : Zip, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Italian Canadian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 17, City : Vancouver, British Columbia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,You may be surprised to know that more and more black women and white men are forming relationships. Black women tend to 'stay within the race' for the sake of loyalty to black men, but a shift is occurring. With many black men dating white women, black women and white men are beginning to date as well.User Detail :
Name : J.B., Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, City : Jacksonville, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : Paralegal,I believe that Black women are simply more attracted to Black men than any other race, for the same reason that women of other races are attracted to Black men. It seems that Black men, however, think of women as women period and some make very little distnction between women. Where I live the trend is a lot of Black men and White women dating, and marrying, but I've been told that it's the White women that go after the Black man. This leaves a lot of Black women manless. Now though, the tables are turning, and the manless Black women are starting to date other races of men. I have been apporached by several White men especially when I sport a very afro-centric hairstyle, more so than when I wear my hear straight. To sum it up, I believe that Black men are just now able to cross the line to White women so it is still kind of taboo, and that is the attraction between the two.User Detail :
Name : Marzet, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 47, City : St Paul, State : MN Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,Just to let you know that your comments are appreciated by me, especially because I am a black female in an interracial relationship. I like men of all races and backgrounds. The white men I have dated like that I am more fun and energetic than the white women they have dated. My thoughts are that it is about the person and not the race. I have gone out with black and Hispanic men, but none have ever enticed me. However, some of the white men I have dated have not been all that. It depends on the other qualities you find attractive in that individual. To be honest, most of the white men I have dated have stated that white women have a lot of hangups and are sometimes more emotional about certain things. Black women, to them, have a sense of themselves and don't really give a damn what others think. We are fun, and thanks for lovin' us sistas!User Detail :
Name : Tisha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Urbana, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : child care resource specialist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I guess it's just the college I'm attending. It seems that the white guys are afraid to even talk to the black girls. The only time they approach us is at parties, usually when they are drunk. Sometimes it almost makes me think they're scared. Thanks for the feedback, Zip. Do you think that sometimes white guys are scared to approach black females? If so, why do you think this occurs?User Detail :
Name : Jummy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 21, City : Jamaica, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College,I have always dated interracially. I think it is becoming more accepted. So you may be seeing it more often.User Detail :
Name : Terry, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Athens, State : GA Country : United States, Occupation : management,I agree there are a lot of white men who like black women. However, I'm not a fan of anyone liking anyone based partially or solely on race. I know a white guy who seems to have dated only outside his race, and predominantly black women. I think he has a fetish, but there are white men in the world who like, love, fantasize and 'fetishisize' black women. If a white guy does become attracted to you, though, find out why, and if I were you, make sure it's because you're a beautiful person inside and out, and isn't just based on skin color and myths surrounding black women.User Detail :
Name : Dominique, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Don't believe in religion, Age : 22, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My husband and I have been married five years. More often than not we see interracial relationships just the opposite of ours. I believe I can count on one hand the number of relations I've seen 'our way.'User Detail :
Name : Kimberly C., Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Muslim, Age : 28, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : housewife, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Actually, I hear it's quite the opposite now. With vastly more women than men from the black community attending colledge, black women seeking college-educated men are hooking up with white men more and more often. Do you have a crush on some guy? Have you tried hitting him over the head with it? White men, particularly those who'll treat you right, tend to be pretty dense about relationships.User Detail :
Name : Justin27069, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : file clerk, Social class : Lower middle class,I believe white men are not interested in black women because they are afraid of what other people will think of them. Older white people, from what I have noticed, don't really accept the changes that have occurred in the past two decades with integration of the races. White boys don't want to get stares when they walk down the street with a black girl. I have dated people outside my race and understand because I was called a sellout for dating white boys, but I just tell them to mind their own business or to f*** themselves. When I look for a guy I see how he interacts with other people; that's how I can tell whether he is a good guy or not. I never discriminate based on skin color; if they are cute and treat me like a lady, then they are OK with me.User Detail :
Name : Daisy, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 17, City : Hamden, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : student,Actually, yes I do, and I will take your advice of beating him over the head with it. But that was not why I asked. I ask because I go to a predominantly white college, and this is what I see: white girls flocking to black guys and vice versa. Yet I do not see the same with white guys and black females. I know that recently me and my girls have been going to some of the frat parties, and it looks like some guys would like to dance with us, etc., yet they are a bit apprehensive. Not to mention recently at a party, one white girl pulled her man away when he started to dance with us. I just wonder why it seems harder for white men and black women to get together as compared to white women and black men. I'll let you know if beating him over the head works!User Detail :
Name : Jummy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 21, City : Jamaica, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College,I am a white guy attracted to black women. It just seems that for whatever reason (maybe because Minnesota is 90 percent or more white) I don't very often meet them. I have been in love with one black woman, and it has really been a beautiful and mind-opening experience. I would definitely be interested in meeting other black women.User Detail :
Name : K26949, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Minneapolis, State : MN Country : United States,I'm an African-American female who lives in Minneapolis, my take on being a single female is that for the average male that lives here, blonde White women are the most desired for dating and/or marriage. Followed by White women (no matter what hair color), Asian & Hispanic women. African-American females seem to be on the bottom of the list as far as what is physically desirable here. Peruse any personals ad (just as a guage), walk into any bar or restaurant, heck even take a walk in Downtown Minneapolis or the Mall of America & you will see White men with either a White, Asian or Hispanic female. It's very rare to see a White male with an African-American female here especially considering that are a lot of African-American male/White female relationships, so it's not like interracial relationships are unusual here. I'm not sure if we're just not considered attractive by White males or if they are afraid of what family/friends/neighbors would think. If it's the latter, I really don't understand because White females here date across the race line & it's no big deal. My ex-husband is White & we have a bi-racial child. When my child reached school age, her friends were floored that I was African-American. Minneapolis has a large percentage of bi-racial children & the 'norm' here is that the mother is White & the father is African-American not the other way around. You know when 1st & 2nd grade kids find a peer with an African-American mother & White father 'different' but the other way around 'normal', that is a clear message about African-American female/White male relationships here in the great white north. I've dated African-American males & a few White males here, but for the most part White males in Minneapolis do not seems as interested and/or open to dating African-American females. K stated that he doesn't often meet African-American females. Unless he is livng under a rock, there are plenty of us here. His White female counterparts have no problem finding African-American males and the ratio of African-American males to African-American females is about 50-50 (perhaps 40-60). Yes, Minneapolis is a majority White people in general but it not that big in terms of a metropolis either & is quite intergrated. If K is indeed attracted to African-American women, then he is truly the exception to the rule here.User Detail :
Name : T27544, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 34, City : Minneapolis, State : MN Country : United States,
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